I've been dating my boyfriend for just over 2 months. We're both busy so we see each other once a week and contact mostly by texting at night just before bed. Lately, he's been having problems at work and has become very stressed. He says he doesn't know if he should stay with this job so he's taken up other stuff at night in preparation in case he does leave his current job, so now he's even busier than before. We hardly text now, mostly just how the day's been then he'll say he has to sleep cos it's late. I've told him i understand that he's got a lot on his plate so i don't mind that he can't spend much time with me and I told him if he's too busy on certain nights he just has to tell me then send me a good night message before he sleeps and i'll understand and be ok with it.
He's said that he's thankful i'm so understanding and considerate but tonight when we were texting, i told him i missed him twice in the conversation and he said he loves that I miss him but every time i say that it reminds him that he doesn't spend enough time with me and makes him feel guilty. He also said i say i miss him every 2 seconds. I probably tell him once or twice a day, is that too much? He says it's like i'm constantly reminding him how little time he spends with me. Then he said 'sometimes i wonder if i have enough time for a relationship', followed by 'I don't want to neglect you or the relationship but I'm really busy', then 'started to wonder if i should have a relationship at all at this stage of my life'. I freaked out and asked if he was trying to break up with me and he got angry and asked how the hell i interpreted that from his words. Did I overreact or did everyone get the same feeling from his words?
He got pretty pissed off with me and said he was disappointed that i would think he would break up with me over text (I didn't, i just freaked out and i told him that but i don't think he believed me), then he kept repeating that i made him feel guilty about not spending enough time with me. Apparently even saying i understand that he is busy and I'm ok with it makes him feel guilty too.
I don't know what's up with him. I apologised a few times through the conversation but he wouldn't calm down. I asked him if he wanted me to stop telling him I miss him and that I think about him and he said yes because it made him uncomfortable. Is that normal cos it doesn't seem normal to me. It seems like a very unreasonable thing to do. Am I wrong?
I'm starting to wonder if he's been feeling so guilty about not giving me enough attention that he's subconsciously trying to get me fed up enough with him to break up with him so he'll feel better. Or maybe he's just being unreasonable? I don't know but i am so upset right now. Anyone got any insight in the situation?