Help what does she want

[Smarc68]

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years but broke up a day ago. However before we started dating we were best friends. During the relationship things got rough for both of us, silly things would strt a fight as she was very stubborn and we have even broken up before over stupid things. This time she says she's serious, but she still wants to be friends and is still texting me even today. I understand why she wants to break up (she says when were in a relationship I make her somebody she's not) , this is no stranger to me and she does become somebody she's not, but only when she's stubborn. 4 days ago we hung out n we even spent hours searching for a certain food for me. I wasn't surprised but shocked. I understand tht things were unhealthy, but things were also good. She still loves me, and still cares about me and were stil gnna hangout just not as frequently (as friends obviously). I asked her if she thinks we'll get back together and she says "I don't think so". I don't wanna get together with her unless things change cause we both finally acknowledged the problem and I know we will only fix it by building this friendship. I know I should build on our friendship which I plan on doing. She also tells me yes when I say are u happy were not together , but we both agreed on being friends. What should I do? and her previous boyfriend didn't talk for months when they broke up n rarely talk now. What does she want with me

[Emmure]

Honestly, you really have to differentiate a love relationship and a friend relationship. If you try to have both with the same person, it usually ends up badly and with someone ending up with a broken heart or unsatisfied feelings. So just ask her straight up if she's interested in a romantic relationship or just being friends. I personally find I can't really continue any kind of relationship with a girl if the romantic part doesn't work out. Being friends after being in a romance with someone just doesn't work for me anyways, it just confuses my feelings.

[relationship55]

I agree with emmure! Your girlfriend seems like she still wants to date you if she is still texting you right after your breakup. I would ask her in a subtle way what she really wants.

[katyk]

Hi, what does she want? Probably exactly what she says. She wants to be 'friends' Once friends cross the barrier and become lovers the dynamics change and it is often difficult, if not impossible to resume where you left off especially when one is hoping for more which you seem to be. My advice would be to give her space! Don't agree to continue with the friendship in the hope she may change her mind. It is soul destroying and it will prevent you moving on and meeting new girls. As I said to someone else....set her free, if she comes back its meant to be! Real true loving relationships shouldn't be so confusing and one day you will realise this when you meet someone who truly loves you and wants you as her partner in every sense of the word.