I can't say you're wrong because your points are very valid, but it isn't impossible that somebody has feelings for another but still has issues with their attitude or mentality. Yes she is still playing the friend card but if I were her I wouldn't just say either we stay apart and don't talk or I'll jump back into a relationship with you, even though I haven't physically seen you since we broke up. I feel that she could be teetering between wanting to stay with the breakup she decided on or if I really do care as much as she does/did. And she's a girl and girls love attention, this is often true but every breakup I've ever been apart of the female always rushed to somebody else to feed their ego, not mine.
Again, like I said if I'm wrong about her then this will only be a learning lesson. I only defend her because every other breakup I've been in the female always reacts to the "breakup book" and does everything everybody complains ex girlfriend's do. They jump to the next opportunity as quick as possible to feed their own ego. My current ex has been the only girl to breakup with me and still just lay low and keep to herself. Yes you are right that just because she hasn't tried to move on yet that it doesn't mean she wants me, but she said last night she does she just doesn't know if I will turn back into the same person and she'll be back to square one. To me this seems logical, not typical, to worry about her own feelings rather than what I want right this moment. But what do I know I guess, all girls are the same.