I'd like to start by saying that i'm from Manchester, England. I had a similar problem, aside fromt the whole boyfriend being a virgin and all. After talking to my boyfriend, we sort of made a long term compromise as far as sex goes.Originally Posted by ---beatingheart
His sexual peak was from 18 to 25, now he's 26 going to 27. My sexual peak is going to be from 28 to 36, i'm only 20 as of now. Clearly his cravings for sex are going down. He's busy with work and his other problems. But I would like him to have time for "me" later on, in ten years from now. I know that when I was 18, I was dating someone who was 20. He would simply push to have sex all the time. I was just not in the mood, but I knew it made him happy, and that's really just why I did it. But after a while, you start to feel that it's unfair, and you lose all drive to have sex. After talking with my current boyfriend, I realized that this is because I lacked the security of knowing that if i'm haveing sex when i'm not in the mood to make him happy now, will he do the same for me later on.
I love it when my boyfriend goes down on me, but he doesn't seem to want to do it enough. And that's not the half of it. He wants to have sex all the time, but lately he's been getting distracted with other things. I've told him that up to this point, i've only been acting like i've been enjoying sex with him. I wouldn't fake orgasms or anything of that nature, but I would just act like I was in the mood, when I really wasn't. To my good fortune, he didn't take this the wrong way at all. He was hurt a little bit, but he found it very sweet of me and considerate. He also told me that later on, he would do the same for me. Which he has done once so far, when he was really not in the mood to.
But you said that your boyfriend is a virgin. That sounds great, until the part where you mentioned that you would tease him. Men hate pointless teaseing. In fact, they loath it. I know it's fun to tease guys, but when you tease him in a way that you "know" turns him on, and just leave it at that, they all get frustrated, wheather they admit it or not. The fact that your boyfriend is a virgin and that he knows that you've had sex, and you tease him makes matters very complicated. He might be getting very angry at you, but doesn't show it yet. Men are great at hideing how they feel. Four months might not be long for me and you, but for a guy, it could seem like years. I don't know if being a virgin makes it worst. I would think it would be though. It's like having a new car, but knowing you can't drive it. You have your license, but there's no gas in it. But you want to drive! So, there's only so much you can wait, and 4 months for a guy who's a virgin is a long time. So I would worry about him going and renting an other car.
You should either stop teasing him, or try to take care of his need. After all, he is your boyfriend, but then again, I don't know how close you are to him, so maybe the second option might not even be up for consideration. I could see how you would be put off though. If he's a virgin, you think, (you're right), that he wants to have sex, for himself only. It's true. And not very appealing. I think all women here can relate. But try to think of it on a more mutual level. If you help him reach that milestone in his life, he will want to do the same for you, when he's really not, how do I put this, "up" to it.