How can I avoid oral sex?

[java303]

no, i didnt...but should i worry about the smell being sign of any std? she had herpes.

[Junket]

I don't recall herpes causing any bad smells.

[vashti]

Did you miss my last post? I don't think herpes causes odor problems, but it is highly contageous, and he may have that, too. I am leaning towards another STD as the source of the stink.

[Junket]

Did you miss my last post? I don't think herpes causes odor problems, but it is highly contageous, and he may have that, too. I am leaning towards another STD as the source of the stink.

Well you didn't specifically state whether or not herpes did or did not cause any bad smells.

I was just confirming this.

Because I did a considerable amount of research on it a few months ago...'cause for a little bit, I thought I had somehow contracted herpes...

Man did I feel foolish after that...

[vashti]

Not you, fras... I meant that comment for the OP. (sorry) I said that gonnorhea causes smelly ejaculate, as do infections of the prostate. There may be another cause. I have never heard of a smell being associated with herpes.

[java303]

oh but his testicle has no sign of herpes. i am really scared to ask him anything. actually he told me many of his "sexual" stories from his high school days. back then he was a terrible pervert. but he always told me that he dated "clean" girls. and he chased me because i have been virgin. and after he met me he had only me.

[Junket]

oh but his testicle has no sign of herpes. i am really scared to ask him anything. actually he told me many of his "sexual" stories from his high school days. back then he was a terrible pervert. but he always told me that he dated "clean" girls. and he chased me because i have been virgin. and after he met me he had only me.

There aren't alway visible signs.

A person can be a carrier well before they exhibit any physical symptoms.

You're online.

[url]www.webmd.com[/url]

[vashti]

Ugh. There is no way to tell if a girl is clean by looking at her. Have you had sexual intercourse with him? Are you wearing condoms every time?

[java303]

no, i am not having sexual intercourse with him. we decided not to do it before marriage. but he always wants oral sex!

yes, i am online.

[vashti]

Keep your mouth off of his weiner until he has been checked out for STDs. Tell him you know that it isn't normal for ejaculate to smell like that. If he gets mad, dump him. No one should be pressuring you into behaviors you know are unhealthy.

[java303]

does a thing really carry smell? he has been the only man in my life. i never kissed or dated anybody before meeting him. so it is important for me to know.

[vashti]

This doesn't have anything to do with YOU (yet). If this is an STD, he picked up from someone else. This is the risk you take when becoming sexually intimate with people who have been sexually active... they may have a little surprise in store for you. Did you know that 1 in 4 sexually active college-aged people have an STD? They are rampant. If he is diagnosed with one, you will have to be tested since you have been engaging in oral sex.

On a side note, if you can't even SPEAK to him about these kinds of things, are you sure you are ready to be engaging in sexual activity with him? Because it doesn't sound like you are, no offense.

[java303]

This doesn't have anything to do with YOU (yet). If this is an STD, he picked up from someone else. This is the risk you take when becoming sexually intimate with people who have been sexually active... they may have a little surprise in store for you. Did you know that 1 in 4 sexually active college-aged people have an STD? They are rampant. If he is diagnosed with one, you will have to be tested since you have been engaging in oral sex.

On a side note, if you can't even SPEAK to him about these kinds of things, are you sure you are ready to be engaging in sexual activity with him? Because it doesn't sound like you are, no offense.

oh no, last night was my first time trying it....i just grabbed it and licked it. he told me to put it in my mouth, but i refused because of the "smell". i dont want to go overboard with sexual things....esp now when u guys are telling me that there can be something fishy out there. but yes, i will talk to him about it...but in a good way.
he feels little offended everytime i ask him about his ex girlfriend's herpes problem.

[Tiay]

oh my god, this is creepy.

Do you believe everything he says? such as "I can't get an erection with a condom" and "I only slept with clean girls". Clean shmean. It means nothing. More to the point, if he turly only slept with "clean" girls, then his dick would be clean, too, wouldn't it?

Have some self respect! Can you imagine how sick you'd have felt if you had given him oral that time in the car? That's how little he cares about your feelings on the matter. And that isn't right. He's a horrible candidate for a person to loose your virginity to, when there are hundreds of guys out there who actually value their own virginity as much as you value yours.

Get him tested, and don't touch his stink stick till he gets all the test results back. And EVEN if the stink is purely a dietary/hygiene related, you should not have to go near it. ew. Not unless he sorts out the smell, and returns the damn favor.

I hate this dude already.

[java303]

oh my god, this is creepy.

Do you believe everything he says? such as "I can't get an erection with a condom" and "I only slept with clean girls". Clean shmean. It means nothing. More to the point, if he turly only slept with "clean" girls, then his dick would be clean, too, wouldn't it?

Have some self respect! Can you imagine how sick you'd have felt if you had given him oral that time in the car? That's how little he cares about your feelings on the matter. And that isn't right. He's a horrible candidate for a person to loose your virginity to, when there are hundreds of guys out there who actually value their own virginity as much as you value yours.

Get him tested, and don't touch his stink stick till he gets all the test results back. And EVEN if the stink is purely a dietary/hygiene related, you should not have to go near it. ew. Not unless he sorts out the smell, and returns the damn favor.

I hate this dude already.

well, this guy has been my friend for about 4 years until we dated and somehow grew feelings for each other....throughout that time he told me that he had a real sexual intercourse only with his ex, all others were fingering and him getting oral sex from other women. however, i really dont know what to say about his sexual style...i mean he touches my vagina, but never goes down. and last week when i asked whether he would give me one. he said it would be impossible due to the limited 2 hours timing of our date. it gave me the idea that he is a bit selfish. however, i must admit that he is too conservative...like he doesnt like to kiss me in front of anyone...in the car he wouldnt let me sit on his lap, etc.