I don't make sure she gets off.
I know she gets off. I can tell by the tightening and contractions her VG makes, her moaning, breathing
the squirting, the grabbing, clenching and all of that other good stuff.
I've enough ingenuity to utilize my talents and abilities to do thoughtful things that don't require much money.
Then there are those times I feel taking her out to certain joints/outings warrant spending money. But I do it
not to get her in bed: but because I know we will both have a good time.
Now maybe most women in your experience are needy, and attach value to themselves/access to their private areas.
Not mine.
Dude, totally! I've been with those women.
Perception is more powerful a drug than cocaine dude.
The issue with "having" to have sex Versus wanting to lies with a combination of how you make her feel
and how powerful a sex drive she may (or may not) have.
I don't understand, but thanks I don't bother with problem sex drives because there aren't any to speak of.
I'm not ashamed to admit I've had issues with a couple of women in the past but those were still my choices.
So if I had issues in the sack I'd have no problem posting them up here for advice.
I understand what you're saying. BUT hear me out:
When you start to tally shit up in your mind: correlating the amount of sex with the amount of cash you've spent 2 get it?
There are bound to be problems when doing so.
I agree with this: but I don't correlate a monetary value to the amounts of sex I receive.
But I used to. This was because I was T.J Hooker, instead of chasing down bad guys I was chasing down vagina.
I flipped the dynamic and I'm 100% successful.
Hate to burst your bubble and maybe it's because you're either inexperienced or young but guess what?
A car, food, a movie are ALL poor excuses for human interaction and only suffice for so long.
A meaningful, lasting relationship lasts a lifetime. Period.
This does NOT work with emotions. For you it does. Not for me.
Children will always fail to meet your expectations.
Your life will be miserable IF you view EVERYTHING as an expectation that doesn't get met.
This is why I don't view it like that at all. If the Van fails you got options. If your children fail to listen.
You either tell them again or discipline. If your wife has a train festival with your neighbors?
This cannot be fixed. She made her bed.
Then again I would never allow myself to be put into this kind of situation because I am an extremely intelligent
and observant person when it comes to choosing a partner. if you get a shock out of left field? Don't blame her.
Blame your lack of due diligence and attentiveness. Woman tell us who they are all the time.
This is a myopic way of viewing things.
I don't let things bother me that I have ZERO control over.
If I could only get pizza for $200 guess what? I'm making my own pizza. -Choice from not being able to make the 1st choice.
Your analogies don't resemble reality so I can't comment on the PB&J and apple comment but even if that were so?
Tough. Food isn't meant to be yummy, enjoyable. It is meant to be fuel and nutrition-dense.
Of course. If someone has limited sources of income: they didn't plan their life out all that well.
Account for variable change, and master the thought of things NOT going your way due to circumstances beyond your control. Or? Suffer your entire life with "expectations."
Everyday I wake up dude I'm just the happiest person ever!
I don't have worldly wants nor possessions like I once did.
Now...you highly doubt that I would be fine without sex in a relationship: you would be right. I wouldn't be fine.
The fact is: I never said I would be. I said there are other things to do when sex is unavailable. (BJ was what I implied)
This doesn't mean I would leave her for her sister or demand an open relationship so I could be given a free pass
to marginalize my relationship with her by banging other girls.
You see it as a worldly want because you are getting what you want.
Tell me, honestly, how you would feel if you were in the same relationship, did the exact same things as you do now, but you're almost always refused.
So, if I'm doing a $20/h job, and I treat it as a $20/h job, but I'm only paid $5/h, you'd say quit, or get a raise.
If a woman expects it, and you do it because you want to, it should work out. That's the logic. But just like wages, it's not always a fair transaction.
While peoples needs and wants aren't quite as simple as simple numbers, the same principles apply. If I'm paid $20/h to do a $20/h job, but I'm doing $25/h worth of work because I choose to, it may well not be worth quiting over, but you are looking for a bit more.
.. what? Well damnit, if that's the case, you're right, I've been doing this wrong all along.
I guess I should just start tossing women down and having my way.
Really? Gimme $100 bucks, and I might give it back then.
Right....
So, your expectations dictate what you will and won't do. Be it sex, or money, but not movies.
The only difference is that you won't invest into a sexually lacking relationship, or will cut your losses and move on, while some of us will continue to work at it.
You already apply the logic I've pointed out. So I don't know, maybe some of us are just too 'stupid' to cut our losses and fine fairer game?[/QUOTE]