Originally Posted by
november
Also, what is to be done when the ex is coming back for the above reasons? Do you treat them like an old friend (even though you know that being friends is pretty much the most difficult thing he could ask of you?) Do you ignore? Do you meet up and catch up?
He reconnects, we go out for coffee, we talk for about 1 month and then again its back to him not talking to me for up to 10 days at a time. I do not understand the male brain or its motivations...
It really depends. In your case, he broke off with you and you are clearly more invested in him than he is you. For your own sake, I'd stay clear. His actions aren't those of a guy trying to win you back or he'd invest more time and more consistently.
When he contacts you, you can respond politely but say you are busy. Take a day or two to reply. He'll get the message.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh