Originally Posted by
browncoat
The only thing I don't understand, and probably never will, is why my friend uses the way she feels now (doubts,fears,circumstances) as a foundation for how things WILL be in the future.
These are her gut feelings - and gut feelings should never be ignored because they are rarely wrong. We're not talking about her making a small risk to be with you - you're wanting her to uproot and leave her friends and family to be with a guy she's never met who is much older with a mountain of baggage.
Tell me, if this was your daughter asking for the advice, what would you tell her? Would you tell her to ignore her concerns about moving countries to be with an older man who she's never met who already has kids and an ex? I know that if my daughter came to me in the same position, I'd advise her to trust her gut instinct. I'd also be telling her that there are many wonderful men her own age who live locally and have no baggage.
Speaking of parents, what do her parents think of the situation?
Last edited by basilandthyme; 30-06-13 at 08:48 AM.
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