She's never coming back.

[CircleC]

I have no hope left that she will return to me. She can never come back now. Not after the past few weeks. Instead, she'll be moving forward to me if there is ever another go-round.

How vein am i to quote myself?

This was my poor attempt to creatively say that I'm moving on, and I'm happy about it. She can never come back, there is no 'going back'. Figuratively speaking. Now literally, I am not say she will never "return" to my life.

I know it sounds hopeless now that I've read it again, but it wasn't meant to be that way. A little play on words, I guess. Typing that post was a very positive thing for me. I was feeling great, just trying to be too fancy with the way I expressed it.

Anyway, I love who I've become because of this. No regrets.

[Rosebud]

well I think it's very true.. Everything you go through in life makes you who you are. You have to experience loss to learn how to cope, and you have to experience pain to know how to mend. It's up to you to get back on your feet and keep moving forward by everything you learn!

I think your doing very Circle! and you still have a way to go but I'm proud of you!

[CircleC]

You have to experience loss to learn how to cope, and you have to experience pain to know how to mend

don't forget experiencing happiness so you can learn how to appreciate it....

By the way, thanks Rosebud. I came here when I needed help getting through a rough time. Between you and a handful of others, I found what I needed. The reality is that it had almost nothing to do with the girl. But everything all at the same time. I was on the right track before all this happened, but I was out of gas and didn't know how to keep going. Then she inadvertently ran me off the rails. You guys helped me get back on course, then gave me a little boost and a whole lot of direction. I wanna stick around here and hang out, it's fun. And I definitely feel like I have some "giving back" to do here.

[Tone]

Always the realist, Tone. That's what I like most about you.

I thought it was my ripped pecs.

[CircleC]

I thought it was my ripped pecs

Honestly, I couldn't care less about your squishy man breasts....or whatever YOU happen to call them, lol.

[Rosebud]

don't forget experiencing happiness so you can learn how to appreciate it....

By the way, thanks Rosebud. I came here when I needed help getting through a rough time. Between you and a handful of others, I found what I needed. The reality is that it had almost nothing to do with the girl. But everything all at the same time. I was on the right track before all this happened, but I was out of gas and didn't know how to keep going. Then she inadvertently ran me off the rails. You guys helped me get back on course, then gave me a little boost and a whole lot of direction. I wanna stick around here and hang out, it's fun. And I definitely feel like I have some "giving back" to do here.

No prob Circle! It's good that you realized all that and you don't have to thank us because it was you who realized it all and is now able to understand everything in a different light.

[shh!]

Honestly, I couldn't care less about your squishy man breasts....or whatever you call them, lol.

They are called "moobs".

Man + Boobs = Moobs

[CircleC]

They are called "moobs".

Ok then. But Tone's circus mirror makes them look like "ripped pecs".

[Tone]

haha, hey whatever makes me feel better, right guys?!!?

[Rosebud]

LOL, that's right Tone!!!!

[whaywardj]

My. Such a Christian ethic undercurrent in this thread. "Suffering leads to salvation" of one form or another. Interesting. Also interesting, I think:

Ever notice the parallels between a Christian ethic and a work ethic? Like: "Suffer in life, but love your enemies, and you'll go to Heaven after you die" versus "Work your ass off, but don't spend your money, save it, and, one day, you'll amount to something."

[Mish]

Don't you wish we were born wise so we could avoid all the pain we suffer in pursuit of wisdom?

Some painful situations are part of everyday life, you would have to face them even if you are wise. The wise people would just make fewer mistakes than us commoners and learn faster

I think pain itself is a useful learning mechanism. Just like a child learns that falling down is bad through being physically hurt, we adults learn more about ourselves and our definition of compatibillity through emotional pain (Or trial and error). So I agree with Tone and his moobs on this one.

There's a quote I like to say:

"Your lifetime is not enough to learn through making mistakes, so learn from mistakes of others!"

[jaye]

She'll be back, but only when you least expect it

Yeah, sorry to say but nothin is worse then a confused woman

[whaywardj]

Oh, boy. Think I'll sit this one out and wait to see what the grrrls have to say about that remark.