why do i still have feelings for my ex

[clearskies]

filcana, was he that attractive , special, romantic...anything about him?

[Pears]

Try writing a list of things that you hate about your ex. Paste it everywhere you are. Keep looking at it all the time. It will help you push away those feelings of wanting him back.

[Tone]

That's actually a really good idea, Pears.

Or just post a list of reasons why you broke up, reasons why you are not good together.

[Gigabitch]

I've found that this is why it's wise to keep a journal.

Example: I was feeling guilty about a guy named Erik that I totally dumped years ago. I went back and read my journals from the time we were together, and was reminded WHY he needed dumping. He totally deserved it, and I had forgotten. He was a huge pain in the ass, but time had turned him into some kind of sweet missed opportunity.

Write yourself a note and send it in the mail.

[To0C0oL]

Simple. You're not over him. It's very common to still have feelings for an ex.

I dont think it has anything to do with not being over him/her..

I'm over my ex-fiancee, I've had several, short-term relationships since then, yet I still occasionally check up on her.. If you TRUELY loved someone, then there is always a place for them in your heart, even if you are "over" them..

[clearskies]

Quite Cool what you say toocool...

[gracieamor]

hi! i think, most people experience that. (the rushing back of the feelings again with their ex..) maybe it's because your not yet really over him and still not ready to accept what happened ryt? maybe all you have to do is, do not entertain anymore that feeling. it will be good for you to move on. actually it's all your choice. you choose whether you still want him back and pursue him or totally forget him. if you still love him, go and pursue him.=)

[zoso]

I used to miss my ex terribly, even though he totally obliterated my trust and cheated numerous times.

Thank god, I'm now in a happy relationship. (It isn't perfect, but hey I'm not complaining.)

It made me realize that I wasn't missing my ex per say, but missed being with someone and feeling loved. I missed having that person I can turn to, cuddle with, and make feel better about myself. In other words, I missed the closeness and intimacy.
Seeing my ex just reminded me of those times, so I thought I was aching for him... when I really wasn't. I just associated him with those things.