Thanks, but I think I understand this better than the people who took the OP's story at face value. He tried to mislead and it worked on most of you.
Are you trying to say we're all misunderstanding and you're the only one who's not? I commented (as I always do) on the facts provided. I didn't comment on his subsequent (clearing up) post because this is NOT A GENDER ISSUE. It is an issue of disrespect within a relationship. PERIOD. The fact he didn't divulge he was a man has nothing to do with the facts of the matter. Disrespect is disrespect no matter which sex is doing the disrespecting.
Perhaps you'd tolerate your bf sleeping in the same house with his ex and NOT ALLOWING YOU THERE when they are sleeping in the same house but Op (an myself and others) would not be comfortable with such arrangements. To each their own but you're in the minority here.
Instead of being truthful and saying, "My girlfriend likes to spend a few nights a week in her own home, and her ex happens to live there because they have a mutually beneficial financial arrangement,"
If that's what it is, if it's as innocent as you are making it sound, then why won't she allow him to sleep with her at her house. Why does she only let him do that when the ex is out of town? It's her freaking house and her ex is a boarder.
you presented all these crazy scenarios that are obviously unacceptable so that's how people reacted.
They are the scenarios that he has been tolerating.. he didn't make them up. They are acts that cross most peoples fundamental relationship boundaries. They are acts that most people would find disrespectful. If she would have allowed him (or he she as first thought) to sleep there when the ex is there as well... I would be a little less rigid in my opinions of this thread.
Last edited by Wakeup; 12-10-11 at 03:53 AM.
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