Most girls wouldn't accept this.Originally Posted by Chlorine
Most girls wouldn't accept this.Originally Posted by Chlorine
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ok, so let's say a girl is wanting to have a marriage after 2 yrs together...should she give him an ultimatum either marry her or she'll leave? Will this set the guy's mind straight?
Circumstances or people can take away your material possessions, they can take away your money, and they can take away your health. But no one can ever take away our precious memories. So, don't forget to make time and take the opportunities to make memories everyday. To everything there is a season and a time for every purpose under heaven
Ultimatum? Don't make me laugh. You drop an ultimatum and we're threw.
My best friend's girl tried to do that shit; we kept him strong and her ultimatum went bye-bye.
"Oh Lord it's hard to be humble, when you're perfect in every way. I can't wait to look in the mirror, cause I get better loking each day. To know me is to love me, I must be a hell of a man. Oh Lord it's hard to be humble, but I'm doing the best that I can." Mac Davis
That's very good logic.Originally Posted by Debunkt
Originally Posted by TAVS
well, maybe it's a good thing for your friend's gf...bc by then she knows that he's not that serious with her?? maybe??
Circumstances or people can take away your material possessions, they can take away your money, and they can take away your health. But no one can ever take away our precious memories. So, don't forget to make time and take the opportunities to make memories everyday. To everything there is a season and a time for every purpose under heaven
I have to agree, I don't like ultimatums. just not the right way to go about it; I basically had one thrown at me once, and I opted out.
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He is serious with her; they just dont have the money right now. But it's unfortunate; cause EVERYONE agrees he can do way better.
"Oh Lord it's hard to be humble, when you're perfect in every way. I can't wait to look in the mirror, cause I get better loking each day. To know me is to love me, I must be a hell of a man. Oh Lord it's hard to be humble, but I'm doing the best that I can." Mac Davis
Originally Posted by Lloyd95
well, then, in your opinions, what is the right way to go about it?
Circumstances or people can take away your material possessions, they can take away your money, and they can take away your health. But no one can ever take away our precious memories. So, don't forget to make time and take the opportunities to make memories everyday. To everything there is a season and a time for every purpose under heaven
Have a sit down; a heart to heart. You'll find out where he stands and where he wants to be.
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Truer words were never spoken - by either a woman or someone who is single.Originally Posted by Chlorine
That sounds all fine and dandy for about a month or so. Once reality sets in and you realize you can't afford to be doing shit like this every night, nor can you stand literally LIVING at your office because your dumb broad demanded you to spend time with her, forcing you to leave work and spend time with her.
What about those of us who don't have this option? Not everyone works at a business office where they have the option to just up and leave work so that they can come back later. Even if they could, how many men would actually WANT to come back to work after they left?
Give up sports / tv/ whatever...? What a pussy-whipped cop out. Why are you giving up ANYTHING for a woman? She isn't going to change for you, so why in the world would you be with someone whom you have to change your whole life with just to be able to stand? Someone needs to re-attach their nads.
Here is another insane idea about this whole thing - Don't get married. There isn't anything in it for the man in the first place. Of course, all too many men are too pussy to put their foots down, so they fall for this bullshit ultimatum, but that's too bad for them. Any man with half a gonad would let their woman know EXACTLY what their intentions are about the whole marriage thing, and would never entertain any kind of marriage talk until they are ready to do so.
It's no wonder most marriages end in divorce. Pushy, demanding women who want a guy to change, marrying pussy-whipped men who don't stand up for who they are and what they want to do.
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well, not all men are like this. some do keep their gf's hanging until they find another girl that they think is the right one. I think for the woman's best interest to either have the commitment infront of her or walk away.Originally Posted by Cybog
Circumstances or people can take away your material possessions, they can take away your money, and they can take away your health. But no one can ever take away our precious memories. So, don't forget to make time and take the opportunities to make memories everyday. To everything there is a season and a time for every purpose under heaven
jasmin, if this thread is about your spaz of a bf, I hope you're not considering marrying him.
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Originally Posted by Lloyd95
well, somewhat yes and no. More like a no. I guess, I'm more confused than i thought I am.
Circumstances or people can take away your material possessions, they can take away your money, and they can take away your health. But no one can ever take away our precious memories. So, don't forget to make time and take the opportunities to make memories everyday. To everything there is a season and a time for every purpose under heaven
One of my best friends has the two-year-rule. She's stayed with a guy who's not ready to have a family for seven years, waiting for him to get it together. It's looking like it's never going to happen. She wanted babies, and it's looking like that's not going to happen, either. She could have found three guys more willing to commit by now.Originally Posted by Debunkt
I think that's sad. If one person wants to get married and the other person doesn't, one of you will be unhappy, no matter what.
I can think of a few friends right off hand that got married after being together for many years. Just took a long time to get to the altar. I was a wedding last summer for a couple that had been together for 10 years. (off and on - they broke up lots - but neither of them ever dated anyone else all those years - so they were never really off).
I'm certain it is a solid marriage that will continue to get stronger.
Others I've known, some 8 or 10 years.....then married.
I guess if the guy knows he isn't going to marry her...it is really unfair for him to be stringing her along.
However, if it is just a matter of not being ready for certain things yet (I mean..some people have ideas of what they want to make things stronger when they do get married) - then it is definitely worth waiting for. Probably just means he is cautious and wants to do things right.
And ultimately I believe the man has to decide when the time is right.
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