How important is "good sex"?

[Bo]

ok, it's important. Besides having compatible personalities, it wouldn't matter to me if the sex wasn't good and we didn't mesh well in bed, because then the relationship will probably go into more of a friend zone. I've had that happen before, well it wasn't the guys fault since he had a bad knee from a soccer injury anyway but the sex wasn't very good and in that case it wasn't fixable so it just wouldn't work.

[Junket]

ok, it's important. Besides having compatible personalities, it wouldn't matter to me if the sex wasn't good and we didn't mesh well in bed, because then the relationship will probably go into more of a friend zone. I've had that happen before, well it wasn't the guys fault since he had a bad knee from a soccer injury anyway but the sex wasn't very good and in that case it wasn't fixable so it just wouldn't work.

Exactly.

I've said this before.

If you're not having sex, or you don't believe sex is important, you're called friends.

[vashti]

What about sick people, Fras? The ones that are too sick to have sex?

[Junket]

What about sick people, Fras? The ones that are too sick to have sex?

I think sex can be set aside, for how long, depends on the person.

But any person that starts, or gets involved in a relationship believing sex isn't an important component: my post above.

[Bo]

Besides, getting a long well in bed always helps after you get over an argument/fight. Fight and screw. lol

[doppelgaenger]

You know what else is really important (for most people)?

Contraception. Without that, none of your monkey asses would even be having sex, with all the risks involved.

[Charlie Boy II]

I was talking to my 90 year old grandmother the other day about my cousin Ben who has an extremely bad back. His girlfriend just got a job offer in another city, and is thinking about taking it.

We were talking about her chances of taking the job and their relationship ending, which we both thought was likely.

"and you know" said my grandmother frowning, "I can't imagine what kind of lover Ben can be with a back like that," haha!

[doppelgaenger]

^^ Now that's bad.

[Lipp]

Mediocre, for a serious relationship it certainly doesn't trump personality, though it would be more important than financial stability.

I don't think that I'd end a relationship because of it, but it's true that over a period of time it would strain it. Fortunately my girl and I have had a marvelous time doing it as we both like experimenting within limits and strive for us both to enjoy it and share feedback on what it's like.

[Illusional]

haha ironically bad sex is better than no sex...look at this thread.

[url]http://www.loveforum.net/ask-male-forum/26650-need-mans-help-here.html[/url]

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[IndiReloaded]

I was talking to my 90 year old grandmother the other day about my cousin Ben who has an extremely bad back. His girlfriend just got a job offer in another city, and is thinking about taking it.

We were talking about her chances of taking the job and their relationship ending, which we both thought was likely.

"and you know" said my grandmother frowning, "I can't imagine what kind of lover Ben can be with a back like that," haha!

LOL, I love talking with ppl like this. She sounds awesome.

Hey, CB remember that a gentleman remembers a lady's birthday, but never her AGE. You GM is only 78.

[Gigabitch]

It's super important to me. I think it's seeing my husband and myself over some rough spots.

[ecojeanne]

I think that yes it would be important and like ladie said I would also imagine that It can extend a relationship beyond the timeframe it should have been finished by. For me I wasn’t the most experienced before my last relationship and I needed someone to show me, my ex did that so I have no idea whether he was considered good or bad. I loved it because he swung me around the place and we tried all sorts. It was adventurous for me. And so I very quickly became more comfortable and I instigated the positions and now I feel free and have no worries about anything, I just went for it. He said I was the best he ever had….yyyyyeeeee right, I soooo didn’t believe him but it was nice to hear. I don’t know if I could stay with someone based on sex tho. I need more than that.

[Dasein]

I have been in a relationship where my partner was under going radiation therapy and he had trouble in the bedroom. I was always kind and understanding about it so I don't think I am shallow.

However having a good sex life is imperative for me now. I think it also displays deeper issues that may be present in the relationship. If you have good communication and understanding in the bedroom then it often means it will carry in other areas. At least this is how it is for me currently.

[Mish]

How important is good sex to you guys? In other words, how high up is it on your list of attributes you're seeking in a mate?

Would it be more important than say, financial stability or a good personality?

Starbie, I believe this is like asking what's more important water or air? Would you go one year without drinking water (or anything liquid) if you could breath amazing air?

I think it's a question of balance. They are all important and need to be equally balanced out imo. But to answer the initial question, yes good sex is important and without it, it would be very difficult to have a good / healthy relationship. But balancing out means defining your bottom line, finding things really important to you and things you can do without. How much can you sacrifice before reaching your bottom line? I think is the real question.