I just read your story and hun I went through almost the exact same thing with my ex. He has been a heroin addict for almost 10 years. I was with him for 2 years and he'd pretended to be clean for the last year we were together. The relationship was a struggle to say the least. The final straw for me was when we moved out together at the beginning of the year. I too noticed my ex never had money to help pay bills even though he was earning more than me. After raising my concerns my ex flipped. In subsequent weeks his behaviour towards me got real nasty and I went to the police one night when he threw a light bulb at me. Well he ended up leaving 2 months into the lease. He didn't even acknowledge me the day he packed up and left. That hurt even though I knew I had only done what I did for my own safety. It's been 5 months since he walked out of my life and the only times he's been in touch with me is to rudely demand bond money from me even though he took off with a T.V. that I had helped purchase. He took me to tenancy court last month where I agreed to pay him half the bond back. I decided against taking him to court for the money he owes me for the T.V. After the court case he text me saying all sorts of stuff - that he's moved on and he's happy and he's so glad I'm out of his life because I had been dragging him down... As much as I used to love him, when he left me, I never contacted him - not to express my hurt or to ask him to come back. Looking back at what can't even be called a relationship he was always lying to me about something. Every single day. I tried so many times to encourage him to do further education and develop a career but he was never interested. I offered to pay for him to go to rehab - he didn't want to. He wanted to hang out with his friends who were also criminals and addicts. He even compared me to the addict girls in his life, like his ex. I don't have a criminal history. I don't do drugs. I work full time and I studied my butt off at uni to get my science degree. I felt the same way you did when he left me. Why? I'm successful, why wouldn't he want to be with me? But all these months have given me time to reflect back - we were completely wrong for each other. Yes, we were best friends at one point and inseperable. But over time I grew up and got responsible - his addiction just got worse and you know what? He was happy with the direction his life was going. The guy did not want to be helped. And that's all people like you and I can do. Be there and offer our love and support but if it's not wanted there's nothing we can do but move on with our own lives. Take care of ourselves because we're no good to others if we can't help ourselves. My advice to you would be to ignore your ex despite what he's texting you. Addicts tell you what you want to hear. They know how to sweet talk because they are manipulative people who will do and say what they can to get what they want. They are every bit as selfish as everyone believes them to be. They only look out for number 1. I still hurt. It's not easy...especially when you felt as if YOU were important to him. But my ex made his choice and so did yours. Do not go back there, especially if you're still getting over this. I hope you've been strong enough to resist communication with him...please do update me on your current situation.