Dang, I agree
It all sounds too dodgy. Not just from what someone pointed out-that I didn't think of- that the company is paying for a hotel and banning partners from attending. But first and foremost is that your bf does not HAVE to attend it.
You need to feel great about yourself. Even if he cheated, even if he thinks you're an idiot and lies and all that, you are wonderful. Even if it is all lies and he's had to sneak about to hide his massive flaws and stupidity, you don't make him act like that, he does it by himself. If he were to mess things up, that would be his loss. You got that? Just like your stinking cheaty ex, and any other stinking exes you've had. Nothing you did made them cheat, they were the messed up idiots(to put it mildly).
Why am I saying all this? Because you should have all the confidence in the world!!!! When you finished with your ex, you probably felt low about it and thought no one would find you attractive ever again (I know I did at some point), but you were wrong because you got a new bf, right? And if this bf messed up, you'll find an even better and worthy one. Because you deserve worthy bfs!
So if your bf evades the truth and says you're this or that, just tell yourself that you either deserve a straight answer from him, or that you deserve someone else completely.
I agree with BackUp. Call his company and ask the receptionist about the hotel accommodations for the party. I bet you will discover that the company is not banning spouses or significant others from the hotel. You might even find out that the company isn't even offering hotel accommodations for the party. Once you have this information in hand, you can contact your boyfriend and dump him.
Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from bad decisions.
...so call! I would LOVE to hear what the company says!
I like this idea. Find out what the real arrangements are. Even if it is true that the party and hotel rooms are only for employees that doesn't mean that people will stay in their assigned rooms. I've been to plenty of work related conferences where people swap room arrangements.
Hiya. Sorry only just getting back to you all, my laptop is broke & it keeps turning its self off Grrrr! Thanks for your reply.I didnt find the message on facebook but i knew he was looking at her profile because i saw his history. The email that i found said - if you could send me some work sheets that i need i will get you a drink at the party. I dont think he is emotional cheating on me because he doesnt even go out anywere. He knows how i feel & that i dont trust him 100%. I know his password but he doesnt know that i know them.
Gonna try & get back to everyone else now befor my laptop go's off!
Well i hope you are right & thanks for the advice. I just wish i could trust him without checking up on him. We nearly split afew months ago & it was him that said lets try & work things out as i was ready for leaving. We have also got big plans for the future so if he was gonna cheat then surely he wouldnt of tould me to stay & make plans with me?? (if you understand)?
BritChik it is definitely not you. .I would talk to him about it and get a gauge on the situation. It may just be she is his "work girlfriend." If you watch Greys Anatomy, one of the Surgeons and the chief surgeons are work husband and wife. There is nothing going on with them romantically but they watch each others backs at work, laugh, have inside jokes. It's easy for this type of relationship to get a little flirt and natural, but if you suspect something is really going on trust your instincts. It all comes down to the dynamic of your personal relationship. I know in my relationship this would not be acceptable to me or my partner. The dynamic you have with your partner, how long you've been in a relationship, how serious it is all play a role.