Like Lady Macbeth her hands will always be stained with fluids of her sins. You must away!
Like Lady Macbeth her hands will always be stained with fluids of her sins. You must away!
You're so naive.
I've met some people in that situation so it's no surprise to me that somebody who was sexually abused would flock to that kind of work. A child who lived through sex abuse and/or incest is used to living a double life. Those kind of things are frequently kept secret.
Second of all. I don't think you're the right guy for her. And she's not the right girl for you. She needs somebody who won't become jealous and controlling. If you're gonna stay with her, and she continues that kind of work, I doubt you'll adjust to it.
The best thing for both of you, besides mutually changing to meet each other's emotional needs, would to just break up.
Period.
ok those are not the women to go out with and love there other ones try again i hope the best for you
Sorry to hear that man, but maybe there's something that made her do this? Perhaps financial problems? I think you should push her out of your life, but if you really really want to stick to her, maybe you can give her a second chance and see if she's changed. Judging by what you've posted, you say that she's still doing this? Keep us updated.
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Huh. Well, I've never thought what a person *does* is necessarily the same as who a person *is*.
In any case, as Giga says, you have issues with what she does & that she kept it from you. Lack of honesty you might call it.
I hope since you'll be holding her to that standard that you can likewise be completely honest about why you have a problem with it.
Lessons learned all around.
I had a longer post but my internet crashed... so here's the short version.
Put things in a realistic perspective: would you be willing to marry an ex-prostitute. That is a choice you will have to make.
Frasbee, interesting first paragraph. I guess that folks who are sexually abused early on do have to separate the bad experience from daily life.
Hence, be forced into living a double life in order to survive.
I didnt think of it like that at first...thanks for your input. And no, I wont get used to it because I want to be the only one she would want to touch in that way...
Jimmy, yes, i believe that her practice is related to financial difficulties. Still, if I'm feeding, housing and clothing her, I would have figured she'd not want to continue with it.
Guess I'm being too self centered?? Dunno, I'm a caretaker type-that sometimes is in my favor and sometimes not. Thanks for your input.
that's the first time i have ever seen a pentadruple post on here. not sure what the 5 one
No, I wouldn't like it at all. But I would be completely upfront about why it is. And make sure its understood that its *my* problem, rather than make a value judgement about her lifestyle.
I won't hold someone I care about to a standard of honesty that I can't keep myself, that's all I'm saying. I couldn't stand dating a smoker either, but I don't think they're evil to do it, just that I don't like it.
But I still wouldn't date them, in either case.
How is this thread three pages?
Answer here should be pretty obvious.
i think its very easy to go off on the girl in question and say shes cheap, a slut etc but I think we should give her the benefit of doubt. Im totally speaking from experience here. I got deeply involved with a girl who i regard as my real true love who was also (R.I.P, Kelly) a junkie and whos self esteem was so low that she didnt value her life at all and would resort to selling her body just for a fix or 2. When she was clean, we had the most amazing chemistry and relationship ever but when she would get high, speedballing most of the time, thats when she would be at her worst. Ive no idea how Ziffmonger really feels bout this other person but I just couldnt bring myself to forget and leave her and end things just like that when i got to know how serious her drug problem was. And yes like your girl, Kelly is a sweet girl-next-door type with the exception of her huge ass tattoo on her back and yes she has been sexually abused in her past etc, the total cliche.
Ziffmonger, I sent her to rehab, i got her a place in a nice neighborhood away frm her junkie friends, bailed her out of her debts with her supplier, all this against the approval of my wife, (then my gf) and yet this didnt stop her from getting her fix. Your problem may differ but I hope you know what youre getting into. Dont be too quick to judge her, if shes comfortable with the life shes leading and you cant deal with it, cut your losses and end it nicely