How soon?

[lilwing89]

please postem your language

[angel27]

im sorry for my english, i do my best

[Rob26]

Let's start with this -- are you a boy or a girl?

[angel27]

i am a girl

[Rob26]

Just curious, but what is your nationality, that English isn't your native language.

Anyway, to answer your question -- in my opinion -- a girl/woman should wait until marriage until having sex. If you've already had sex before, I would wait until marriage before engaging it in again.

[daletom]

the thread starter i cant well read post yours.

Please, have a little more respect & consideration for somebody who is writing in a non-native language. I admire his (or her) courage for even attempting to participate here!

[daletom]

Just curious, but what is your nationality, that English isn't your native language.

I might guess an oriental language (Chinese, Japanese, Korean, etc). The ordering of subject/verb/object/modifiers within sentences varies among languages but the structures used in English often seem to pose special challenges to orientals.

[angel27]

It is verry interesting...guys instead of answer guess who am i.
i am russian. but i think it does not matter. but probably only for me...

[daletom]

It is verry interesting...guys instead of answer guess who am i.
i am russian. but i think it does not matter. but probably only for me...

Be proud that you are Russian!

We only wanted to know so that we could give an answer that relates to your experience. And because it is always good to hear the thoughts of people in many nations and cultures.

I apologize on behalf of the people who gave sarcastic or teasing answers that were difficult to understand. These people did not mean to insult you. In fact, they accepted you as an equal. Western young people often tease each other or make jokes on their friends without meaning to hurt them.

You asked how soon people introduce sex into a relationship. That varies a lot among people. You may have been told, or at least your parents wedre told, that Americans are very promiscuous and have sex with almost anybody. That is not true. Even though about half of all American teenagers have sex before they are 19 years old, they seldom have very many partners. And most of them wish they had waited until they are older.

Does that help answer your question?

[Gigabitch]

Are you being pressured to give it up?

It doesn't matter what anyone else does. If you're not ready, don't do it.

[Venacava]

I was a late starter and it wasn't because the opportunity wasn't there, just because I didn't want to sleep with someone simply because they were attracted to the way I look. It's your choice in the end and if you're not willing or ready to have sex with someone at the moment, then don't! Who cares what people are going to think about you. In my opinion it takes a bit of courage to say no to having sex at an early age, so many people have sex young because it's "cool", a lot of them end up regretting it. Yes, it may be fun and what not - but just because most other people are doing it, doesn't mean YOU have to!
How old are you?

[lilwing89]

I apologize on behalf of the people who gave sarcastic or teasing answers that were difficult to understand. These people did not mean to insult you. In fact, they accepted you as an equal. Western young people often tease each other or make jokes on their friends without meaning to hurt them.

i apologize, also. it's true i wasn't trying to offend them; im not rascist or anything.

to the threadstarter; have sex with someone that you want to remember, like your husband if you get married. i lost my virginity to a girl who was very important to me on valentine's day, and i wish i had waited, even though i am still with that girl.

[angel27]

lilwing89, Venacava, Gigabitch and daletom thank you very much all for share with me and unswers on my guestion. i send you my love

[Rob26]

Hey, what about me!?!

Anyway, for a lot of guys (including me) it's important (or at least nice) to marry a virgin. We want our life-partner to come to us unexperienced sexually. (I know this is true for a lot of guys from reading this forum -- I also know some guys will jump in here and say it's not true. Okay, so it's not true for THEM.)

It's tempting to give it up to someone you're in love with -- who means so much to you -- but realistically, if you're a teen, you're not likely to spend the rest of your life with that guy and having sex with HIM means that you've made the choice to not come to your future life-partner as a virgin -- why would you want to do that to him?

If you're older, at an age where you can marry, why would you want to give it up to a guy who isn't willing to commit to you -- and marriage is the ultimate commitment.

[King Zarathu]

It is verry interesting...guys instead of answer guess who am i.
i am russian. but i think it does not matter. but probably only for me...

Be proud that you are Russian!

Daletom is only saying that because he watches Russian porn. Russians suck.

Just kidding.