[QUOTE=VincenzoG91;900996] "The fact that you are putting so much effort into an online relationship is a pretty strong indication that you were never actually going to meet him in the real world."
How so? I actually did have plans to meet him, cause I was in love, he told me he wanted to meet me too, and I did have plans for the future, because I did love him. but once I realized it wouldn't happen, it still hurt and I still grieve. One of the MAIN reasons, I wanted to get away from him is because he had no plans to meet me someday, I do actually want a future with someone and to get married and have children someday, thank you very much.
"And while I dispute the idea that you can legitimately call him an ex-boyfriend when you never even met"
It was a real realtionship, not a fake one. I love how people who've never experienced an online relationship have so much judgment and toss if off as not being "real" or "strange". i know I have felt REAL pain and suffering over this person. As I have said, I have exchanged videos with him and we've talked on the phone at one time, the subject isn't up for debate, he was a real ex, because it was a real relationship, even if it was a bad one. It's hard for me to just "turn off" the fact I still care even if I am hurt, and I'm not gonna just magically stop thinking about him. I DO have a life offline thank you, and I get plenty of exercise and have other hobbies, but I am still in a period of trying to get over this person who I have loved for nearly 3 years, it's hard and does not happen overnight.