Boyfriend has just told me he has a baby

[19charlotte82]

He near enough lied when I received the facebook message. I discussed it with him ie "how could someone be so pathetic to spread lies like that?" an he agreed with me. I really thought we were soul mates. My dilemma is I really do believe him when he said he didn't tell me because he didn't want to lose me and te longer he left it, the harder it got. But even though I love him to bits and my heart is breaking, I don't know if we can get over this.

[HeartIsAching]

He never lied about the baby.

A lie of omission is still a lie.

[oldskool83]

it puts the lotion on its skin.

[Saya]

He didn't cheat on you, but that is pretty bad thing to hide and not telling you.
You can try to build up the relationship again, trust him, forgive him for what he did...but if you stay with him and in the future you probably have to get involve with two of the babies mother.... and it would all become complicate.
If I was you, I wouldn't stay in the relationship because he wasn't honest.. that is important thing to say if you are in a serious relationship, also the future is probably going to be messy since he had 3 babies with 2 women.

[hello1]

He sounds a bit like a Baby Machine, it's possible that you'd be next incubator... Really, couldn't he tell you from the start ? It depends on you how much are you able to accept. Can you accept him and his 3 kids and 2 mothers of those kids? Cause they will be in your lives forver. I personally think you shouldn't stay with him ,but it depends on you .

I agree. Do you want two baby mums in your life? money well he be even more worse off for money now!