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    I take the Lounge Lizard approach, myself. If she doesn't come over and sit on my lap, I don't even notice her.
    Speak less. Say more.

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    haha - how's that working for you, whaywardj?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bluevetteracer
    That's right, romance only happens when there is an external connection to it.

    Going for ice cream is not romantic.

    But let's say you met in an ice cream parlor. On your anniversary you have special plans, but at the end of the night, back at your place, you secretly have a couple of dishes of ice cream waiting in the freezer, so you can relive that moment.

    The ice cream is not romantic, the car is not romantic, the fact that you remembered what the context of some special moment was, and were able to make it special again, is romantic.

    Many guys send girls roses for some reason or another, flowers are nice and girls like them, but all in all they are not romantic, unless there is a context.

    Here is an example.

    Valentines Day.

    This girl I met at work, very attractive, very nice, single, and had many, many men perusing her. She had seen me around and I never really hit on her or flirted with her, she was so use to that, it would have put me on the same level as the rest of the guys. Finally one day, 2 days before Valentines Day, she said to me, "I see you coming and going now and then, you just use the copier, and then leave, are you embezzling documents". I said, you busted me, Bond, James Bond is the name. She laughed, and I said, "Love to chat, but my get away car is double parked.

    On Valentines Day she got so many bouquets of flowers, security had to help her take them to her car. But, from me she got a Manila envelope that was sealed with CLASSIFIED tape. She opened it to find some made up spy documents and a national security reason to "infiltrate" me and learn all she could about me. There were dinner reservations, and some tickets to a movie.

    Guess who she was out with On Valentines Day.

    Lesson. Romance is about the context, not the objects, settings or person.
    You should teach other guys how to do this and charge for it...your good!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by shh!
    haha - how's that working for you, whaywardj?
    Aparantly pretty good being that he has no un-met sexual fantacies.
    "Oh Lord it's hard to be humble, when you're perfect in every way. I can't wait to look in the mirror, cause I get better loking each day. To know me is to love me, I must be a hell of a man. Oh Lord it's hard to be humble, but I'm doing the best that I can." Mac Davis

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    Either that, or he has simply lived out all of his fantasies with just a couple of long-term women... Either way, I guess that is good. I have lots of little fantasies I will probably never live out, but then again, maybe they are better left to the imagination...

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    Quote Originally Posted by NeoSeminole
    I can tell you from experience all these examples work like a charm.
    The fact that you're built like a greek statue didn't have a thing to do with it, I'm sure...
    :-D

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    Quote Originally Posted by shh!
    Maybe she just underappreciated you, gHEXjt... REAL romance is hard to consciously construct. It's more about being thoughtful.
    That's what I thought. I always thought that she would be thrilled with the thought and effort I put in, but she wasn't. Her loss.

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    Quote Originally Posted by gHEXjt
    Yeah, I know what you mean. But the only problem I had with that was that I'd ask her what kind of things she thought were romantic, and she wouldn't tell me like I was supposed to know what she wanted. She'd just say, "I don't know." But when I did those other things on that list, she would act like they were very romantic. But then she'd say I wasn't romantic. The more I think about it, that reason is probably crap. I think we just broke up because I wouldn't serve as her personal doormat, but she just didn't want to say that.


    If you have to ask, that is a bad sign. That is like making love to women and asking her if it feels good. YOU SHOULD JUST KNOW!.

    In case you don't know, we will try and help you out.

    You must be cognizant of her feeling all the time. Women are very sensitive to feelings. This does not mean they are fragile, or you have to walk on egg shells or take notes, but you must be able to read the context clues. How often are they smiling, laughing, how do they hold there body, etc, etc.
    Is she talking in the third person about the relationship? WOMEN SAY VERY LITTLE THAT MEANS NOTHING; THEY THINK ABOUT EVERY WORD THEY SAY OR DON'T SAY. Guys just babble and we don't read too much into it. You must not make this mistake in interpreting what women say and do.

    Now, to find out what floats her romantic boat? You must quietly observe her and the details of your relationship. You cannot force a romantic scene, but you can darn well learn to realize when one pops up, and take advantage of it.

    Romance can also be spontaneous.

    I called a girl that I had been dating for a while, and when I called, I acted like it was my first time calling her and asking her out.

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    Hi, this is "so and so" from school, not sure if you remember me, but we have 3rd hour study hall together, and I was kinda wondering if you would like to go out Friday night, that is if I can borrow my dad Buick and all, that is if you want to, not that you have to, but I was just wondering if you would go out with me.

    Now, I have not been in high school for 12 years, so it was funny, she played along and she said, "I have to call my girlfriends and I will call you back". Her girlfriend called me back and said she would go out with me on Friday. I did not have to ask her out, we were already going out, the date was implied, but this made it fun. I even took my dads Buick. I showed up with some flowers and candy, even styled my hair retro early 90's. She laughed and we had a fun time with it. At the movie, I acted like I was shy to touch her and then pulled the old stretch the arms trick to put my arm around her. She laughed out loud.

    The point is, you just have to be creative, and learn how to have fun and make a special moment for you loved one. Love is like a person, it needs attention, love and caring, or it will wither up and die.
    Last edited by Bluevetteracer; 24-09-05 at 09:08 AM.

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    You should teach other guys how to do this and charge for it...your good!!




    EVERY MAN NEEDS TO READ THE FOLLOWING BOOK -

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    AND EVERY WOMEN NEEDS TO READ


    THE RULES VOL. I

    If you wan to attract nice, caring, romantic men, that are the real deal, that is the secret.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shh!
    haha - how's that working for you, whaywardj?
    Pretty good, actually. There's a lot of women out there who wonder what the hell's wrong with them that I'm not paying them any attention, and are damned well determined to find out. When I'm in a mercenary enough mood to exploit it, it cuts down on a lot of air-time chatting and puts something of an urgent edge to the sac time. They put me in headlocks, and shit like that. One woman actually grabbed me by the throat, straddled over me naked and shoved my face into her crotch, dragged me from the bedroom to bathroom, leaned me backwards on the floor over the toilet bowl, and threatened to pee in my mouth while I was giving her head.

    Evidently, inattention prompts some women to anger ****s quite handily.

    Guess I run with a somewhat different crowd than Bluevette.
    Last edited by whaywardj; 24-09-05 at 09:19 AM.
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    Quote Originally Posted by whaywardj
    Pretty good, actually. There's a lot of women out there who wonder what the hell's wrong with them that I'm not paying them any attention, and are damned well determined to find out. When I'm in a mercenary enough mood to exploit it, it cuts down on a lot of air-time chatting and puts something of an urgent edge to the sac time. They put me in headlocks, and shit like that. One woman actually grabbed me by the throat, straddled over me naked and shoved my face into her crotch, dragged me from the bedroom to bathroom, leaned me backwards on the floor over the toilet bowl, and threatened to pee in my mouth while I was giving her head.

    Evidently, inattention prompts some women to anger ****s quite handily.

    Guess I run with a somewhat different crowd than Bluevette.
    You have stolen any bit of innocence I had left...

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    I bookmarked this thread ^_^

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    I picture romance on a blanket having a nice picnic and some wine. Laying together just the two of you and just talking to eachother about what you love about the other one and then kissing eachother and holding eachother. Picking her flowers and giving them to her. There are all kinds of things you can do for your mate that says you care and think of her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shh!
    You have stolen any bit of innocence I had left...
    Ummm, W? I'm with Shh! on this one. That is just weird. Not even animalistic, as it requires too much forethought. Bizzare women you screw...

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