Originally Posted by
pinkfloyd80
She is 24.
Usually by now... sometimes earlier, and I guess as in this case.. sometimes later... women finally start to better understand men. Men are lusty creatures... women are usually a little more discriminate. The sooner she learns this the better life will be for you and her.
These are simple facts... stop feeling guilty --- you've done nothing wrong and she has no right to force this guilt on you. Her understanding of men is completely misunderstood and that's not your fault. Even women can not think of only their significant other and absolutely no one else. So she is being hypocritical by demanding you do something that not even she is capable of --- she will have random sexual thoughts of other people from time to time too. This may even be part of the driving force of her own insecurities...
She has some learning and growing up to do. Happily ever after is a pleasant fiction... but in real life, we are all flawed -- and this is not necessarily a bad thing. Without these random sexual thoughts, sexual experiences with the one you love may become dull and unimaginative.
All you can really do is try to help her see that this is your nature... out of your control and more importantly, out of hers... and that in spite of your innate nature, you are faithful to her, you are caring, loving, and devoted. She has everything and she's complaining about insignificant details.... and really needs to be asking herself 'Why am I complaining?'
"The weakest soul, knowing its own weakness, and believing this truth that strength can only be developed by effort and practice, will, thus believing, at once begin to exert itself, and, adding effort to effort, patience to patience, and strength to strength, will never cease to develop, and will at last grow divinely strong."
- James Allen