I'm thinking my approach could be better. The last time I brought it up I had asked if we could talk about our situation and see if we could find a solution together. I even mentioned going to the Dr together that provided the cream and dildo to see if there's anything I can do. I'll bring it up again and try counseling.
Before all this happened her sex drive was high and we had what I considered a happy healthy sex life. I think that all started to change when it went from fun to work as we tried for a baby and then just plain grueling at the end when we realized it wasn't going to happen. It was OK once we realized that, until her issues started and then it really tanked.