If you want to be in love with someone don't be their friend. There is a reason why you were in the freinds zone....because you are not BF material to her. So don't get suckered into being some girls's friend, because that is all you are to them. There is no way of "getting her back". She had this impression of you as a friend...now you are some guy that wants her....friendship is out the window and that is how it usually works.
If she wanted you, she would have persued you the day you met. No you can't make someone fall in love with you...I'm confused....you are 32? You are not real good with the ladies are ya.....