Does the spark really matter?

[Mish]

It is. whats your point.

He is saying that you simplify things too much to the point where they lose their meaning.

[Only-virgins]

He is saying that you simplify things too much to the point where they lose their meaning.

If something can be simplified to the point where it has no meaning than it never had one in the first place.

[Mish]

If something can be simplified to the point where it has no meaning than it never had one in the first place.

Not necessarily. It means that you simplify it to the point where it looses it's meaning.

E.g. OV is not a person, but a collection of useless atoms

[kene]

Spark is important to me... cuz I'm in impatient ****.

I've fallen deeply in love with people I had no initial feelings for after hanging around them for a while.

So spark isn't everything. You can't really judge a person until you really know them. thing is who has the patience? Who's going to start at A to see if they can get to Z when they can see someone else and start at X.

My 2 cents.

[lesa]

Physical and mental attraction is needed to have a healthy long-term relationship but sometimes it takes you longer to realize that you are attracted to them both physically and mentally. If it never comes after getting to know them within I say a month, then I would let it go.

[kene]

Hmmm, interesting. A month to me is nothing, but I can see that as being a barometer a lot of people might use.

I think if I wasn't feeling "it" within a month but still enjoyed spending time with that person I'd continue, but try to delve deeper into their psyche... try to have really deep meaningful conversations if they haven't been had yet.

Mind you, I've met a million and one people in my time and it's tough for them to differentiate themselves to me within a month where I really gain an appreciation for them.

But that's just me.

If it's been a month and I say to myself "there are a bunch of other ways I prefer to spend my time than with this person" then I would mos def let it go.