EDIT: oops. nevermind.
EDIT: oops. nevermind.
I didn't know you were that young!!
Vash is right. She has every reason to think hard about it.
You don't want kids, you don't want marriage and she does.
I don't even know what it means to be old/young, anymore.
I'm getting too old...
Fras if you don't want to get married then don't. It's not a good idea to give up your ideals just to appease someone else, because it'll only make you miserable.
I got married because that's what my family wanted and the guy I was 'in love with' at the time wanted. The novelty of it wore off soon enough when I realized the financial quandaries that kept mounting. It also made leaving far more difficult which lead to both of us making decisions for the wrong reasons, rather than parting ways much sooner.
I'm in a relationship now with a man who is happy enough without any need to get married. We are both far more relaxed and our decisions are made based on what we genuinely want -- not from fear of financial repercussions. Should we stay together long enough to actually start a family, we may change our minds... though I doubt it.
Last edited by Aeradalia; 22-10-09 at 07:50 AM.
well hang on you're probably more mature than most 27yr old men that haven't managed to have a longterm relationship. i understand her concern but at the same time whats the story with you. do you love her? do you want to be with her? can you see longer term with her? if that bothers you more than being with her then you should sort out things now before things become too hard to leave
Work like you don't need the money. Love like you've never been hurt. Dance like nobody's watching
Don't bother getting married unless you are having children. No reason.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
23yr is still young for guy ... lot of things waiting ahead
27yr for a lady can consider late for marriage though.
"Invest wisely and have money work hard for you"
Why don't you want kids? I think you'd be a great dad
DM you're so sweet sometimes. i love you
Work like you don't need the money. Love like you've never been hurt. Dance like nobody's watching
27 isn't late for a woman!
Well, your views on getting married are important but she doesn't want to get married any time soon. In other words, she sees you as a marriage prospect and wants to know, even if there is no chance of marriage now, is there a chance of marriage down the line. If there isn't, she doesn't want to invest so much more (moving) into the relationship.
Why don't you want to marry by the way? I absolutely consider it a life goal to marry and raise children. I can't imagine my life any other way.
I gave you my heart
I gave you my soul
Now I'm just another number
at the Center for Disease Control
Frasbee, you'll have to reconsider what you want out of life. Think about it.
my bf and i recently became domestic partners. that was a big step.
baby ya hustle. but me i hustle harder.