Was just thinking....

[clynn]

Blapp, are you the girl close to the boy or the girl far away from the boy?

And, hey, Eloise - you just trying having more than one lover. It simply isn't easy.

I certainly believe that it is a challenge to be monogamous to one person for many many years. But I also believe that it is draining and destructive to have more than one lover in a person's life (at a time - he he).

And I don't know about that whole comparison to other cultures where men have many wives. I personally don't think that is something to look up to. I think its crap.

[Blapp]

^ I'm the girl close to the boy, he hates speaking about the girl he loves but once he told me quite a bit about her. He says he feels strongly for me and also that he will never see her in his life because shes from a different country but I'm not sure you can actually start a relationship whilst still loving someone else. Surely that would mean he would give me up as soon as she came back and started speaking to him again...?

[clynn]

sounds like that isn't gonna happen.

Hard to love a memory, a shadow. Especially when the real and tangible is right there.

I guess just don't push it.

[Ellynn]

^ I'm the girl close to the boy, he hates speaking about the girl he loves but once he told me quite a bit about her. He says he feels strongly for me and also that he will never see her in his life because shes from a different country but I'm not sure you can actually start a relationship whilst still loving someone else. Surely that would mean he would give me up as soon as she came back and started speaking to him again...?

Yeah that is a tough one. I don't think starting anything up would be wise.... If anything be his friend. It sounds like hes still not over her. I think if anything time will tell everything. Maybe the timing just isnt right for the two of you. I think he needs closure with this other girl....and seeing as he more then likely won't see her then he probably won't get that. But time does heal alot. I mean he may always have feelings for her....but in time he may realize that he feels alot more for whats right there in front of him....you.
I'm not saying to put your life on hold for him.......but to keep him as a friend and keep your options open when it comes to dating. Eventually if the timing is right things may work out. If not then at least you can say you weren't waiting around for him. If you can handle friendship w/ him I say try it.

[Blapp]

^ Thanks, you speak sense. Yea I was his close friend at the beginning so I think I can handle it... Only thing I can do until he gets his head sorted. Thanks again, you helped