Originally Posted by
basilandthyme
Kathy, I think the only thing you should be telling him is "I'm sick and tired of your criticisms. I'm leaving this relationship. I'm going to find someone who loves me for who I am"
I bet it's only YOU making changes to make this relationship better. I bet he's not working at being less critical or high maintenance. It's all on his terms, isn't it.
+1. Tell him to go **** himself.
Really. If he cares, it will be a wakeup call he drove you to tell him this. If he says "okay" or tries to make you seem unreasonable, then you haven't lost a darn thing. Though, really I just suggest you dump him. Guys like this are crazy-makers.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
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