thanks. that was the most helpful reply to date. the problem isn't that i got low self esteem, i am a bit of an egomainac. my appearance could use some work, but i still think im the baddest shit around and am always getting in peoples faces. you dont know how many times some shit has come up to me and tried to rag on me and i just shoved em into a desk and got yelled at. i think thats what puts the ladies off. i gotta tone it down a bit. but again, thanks for the tips.