Originally Posted by
sheenietee
I strongly disagree that I should not have broken up with him. Even though he was holding off on doing anything with the other girl because of me, he still was hanging out with another girl and contacting me less than usual.. sorry, but I think that's just a clear setup for my hurt lol.
Well, to give you a credit after reading your post on his promiscuous behavior, I agree that breaking up with him was the right thing to do. I think what is in question is not the break up itself (which was the right thing to do in this instance), but your motivation for break up (i.e. breaking up in an attempt to make him work harder for you). I don't know if you will agree with this, but generally speaking breaking up with someone to "make" them do something is not a very practical idea. If you are sure that he is not good for you and treats you with disrespect (which he is) then break up and don't look back. If you still want him and want him to try harder then stay in the relationship and raise your issues, set boundaries and give an ultimatum to break up if you really really have to, to show that you are one foot out the door, but don't break up until you are completely sure yourself that it's over and there's no going back.
Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
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