^^^^ This.
And just because it was a paid site it doesn't mean you ignore red flags. There are liars everywhere... there will just be less of them on a paid site (as I said, better odds of not finding cheaters on a paid site.)
He's vile, as I said we've established that but it's time you forgive yourself (for ignoring those flags) and get on with your life while having learned a lesson about trust being earned and not putting up with disrespectful behaviour from a practical stranger. The minute he disappeared you should have never talked to him again because there is NO EXCUSE for someone doing that to you that should be acceptable to you. No man that valued you would do that to you short of being in hospital and unconscious.
You'll be fine... just stop thinking about the douche and get on with your next dating adventure... You may consider reporting him though.
Last edited by Wakeup; 18-12-14 at 03:53 PM.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion