Originally Posted by
vashti
Well, by TELLING his (now ex) girlfriend what his mom said (and betraying her confidence), he acted like a teenager, which is no doubt why he is treated like one.
Tooya - i would NOT have advised you to make your girlfriend apologize. Given the content of your conversation and your inability to keep it to yourself, her being offended was appropriate. For future reference, if this ever happens again, here's a few tips:
learn not to betray people's confidence. Your girlfriend had no right to badger you about the details of a private conversation between you and your mother. You should have laid down the law right then and there.
Your mom held you in her body for nine months, allowed your giant head to pass through her vagina, possibly stretching her out beyond its ability to recover normal tone and possibly giving her stretch marks, invested years of blood, sweat, and tears into turning you into a man, sacrificed her income for you, would be willing to happily die in your place, put herself second for you since you were born, and has loved you longer and more intensely than any other person on the planet. Do not expect that she should want anything other then the absolute best for you. If there were two girls equally as charming, but one prettier, guess which one I would want for MY son? Is it ultimately his choice? Of course, but that doesn't obligate me to not wish for something else.
If you should ever find yourself in this position again, rather than taking one or the other woman's side, demand they both grow up and demonstrate compassion for the other woman's position, and expect them to treat each other with respect, whether they like each other or not. Refuse to listen to them bitch about one another, even if that means cutting short a conversation you are having. If your mom implies you can do better, laugh, and kiss her on the cheek, and tell her you appreciate her always wanting the best for you, and then change the subject.
And BTW - charlieboy gives (IMO) the best male advice on the forum.