Really, this could go either way, but you two are "doing the dance" and how long do you want to keep up the "come-here-go-away" thing?
Follow the advice in those books about working on yourself and taking the focus off of her. In the end you'll find that you have more success at work, a better physique (because you have plenty of time to work out!), a fun group of friends, exciting things to do (there's plenty of hobbies or activities to explore) and you'll become such a chick magnet that you might not even think about her anymore. If you have the mindset that you don't want any serious relationships right now, because it time for you to get happy with YOU, women will find you irresistable. People always want the ones that look like a challenge, right? Not that you're out to play games, but it's just human nature.
In the long run, if you get on with your life and make things as awesome for yourself as possible, you'll end up having such a great relationship with yourself that you can't help but attract someone equally great into your life. Maybe it will be her, maybe it won't, but it probably won't matter at that point.