Originally Posted by
Only-virgins
That is a great story you have there, I don't see how that could help considering that is assuming on her part what she would say. You get some nifty responses from women though. I would get something along the lines of "STFU kid and pick a coffee"...or just an odd look and blank stare.
Well, that's because it's not about WHAT you say, so much as it is about HOW you say it..
The words don't matter as much.. (think of Joey's "grandma's chicken salad" from Friends)..
- Facial Expression
- Eye movements
- Body-Language
- Tone of Voice
- Speed of Talking
They all make the difference between some creepy/needy/pushy/desperate guy here to get my attention, and that interesting/funny/fun/relaxed/confident guy who I want to get to know better, and "Oh! he just asked me out"..
As for asking her out.. Women = Guys + Social Intuition
She knows exactly why you're asking her out, (especially if it's just the two of you).. she's not an idiot.. BUT! she IS a woman, and she CAN chicken out and get scared.
Find a balance between comming off too strong (my biggest problem), and too weak (simply unattractive).. you want to hit it somewhere in the middle..
Too Strong: "Hey, pick a day this weekend, we're going to ____ I hope you (have an appetite, love chocolate, know how to skate, aren't scared of roller coasters, etc)"
Too Weak: "Hey, I was kind of sort of wondering if you would maybe like to go to _____ this weekend, or whenever you have time, sometime, if you want, and you're not busy"
Just Right: "Have you ever been/gone to ______? I have to take you there, you're going to love it, it's amazing! What are you doing this/next _____?"
Remember, women need an "excuse" so things don't feel awkward.. they know you're taking them on a date, but they don't want to feel that awkward transition of stranger-date.. so instead.. they want you to offer them that mental excuse of "Oh, he asked me if I ever went to ____, and I didn't, so we just went, and we had a great time, but now that I think about it, it was just the two of us, we had a great time, it was a date"... this is the process of "backwards rationalization".. it's when you allow a woman's emotions to act first, and leave room for logic later!
If you forget to create "social excuses", then her logic will kick in first, she'll feel this overwhelming feeling of awkwardness, it will "feel wrong & weird", and she'll feel the urge to just say "no" or back out of the engagement (social engagement)..
For instance, you want to hold her hand and build comfort and familiarity with touch.. (women do this btw when you tell a joke, they will playfully "hit" you; because they have a perfect "excuse" to, so they act on the moment).. you have to do this to.. instead of holding her hand.. google (palm reading) and tell her you know how to read palms.. and read her palm.. then let it go.. don't hold it too long, (if you make her feel uncomfortable by holding contact too long, she'll pull away, and you'll condition her to resist and pull away from your touch! not good!) instead, after you're done reading, even better if you're ALMOST done, just put her hand down or let it go and explain what it all means.. this way, you're creating (familiarity to your touch, comfort, and even longing to be touched again)..
If you can't stop the Wind, then you can't stop the Storm.