Originally Posted by
4dvz
Thank you guys again for posting.
Wakeup: She has never agreed to talk about her true feelings, nor engaged in deep discussions about our relationship. I have tried countless number of times, and I have learned to just talk to her and always at the end of subject just ask her to tell me whether what I just said was correct or incorrect in her opinion. That works out somewhat to get the idea where she stands at, but she still wont tell me what she really thinks about. I have tried being very considerate towards her about this, respecting her own space since it`s important to her, but I have also told her that it hurts my feelings to see her never opening up to me.
She says that she does not want to talk about her feelings, she won`t cry infront of me either. When she is really hurt and angry about something she goes to bathroom, locks herself in and cries there. I have also talked about this and told her that it`s ok to show her feelings infront of me, and I would only be happy if she did so. Just to make sure I don`t give the wrong impression about her, she can also be a very happy and smileful person but just can`t communicate about heavy/serious feelings.
By the way yesterday after writing my previous post I told her my toughts about her state of mind and asked if I was correct, she said that i was "partially correct" but refused to give details.
Why (other then you're too codependent and are afraid to be alone or guilt) makes you stay with her?
She sounds positively dreadful, immature, sociopathic, selfish and you're turning into her father.
So: Ask yourself that question. What about her makes you not just ask her to leave and go back to where she came from because as a couple, neither of you are actually happy?
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion