Boyfriend doesn't love me. Should I stay?

[maxmax]

he's cold to me, he doesn't want to see me that often, he never says I miss you (and we're long distance) and never does nice things for me. Because of that, I get upset and we fight and he "loves" me less and it's like a vicious cycle.

So, why are you with him?

And more importantly, considering the lack of enthusiasm on his part, why is he with you?

Can you fall in love with someone after a year has passed

Love doesn't happen overnight, so yes, you can.

In this case, I doubt it.

I'm sad all the time because I know he doesn't feel the same way and I don't know what to do.

You're sad because your expectations are not met, and as they are not met you guys fight, and because you fight you end up being even further away from what you expect from this relationship.

So ...

1) he won't say he loves you, and he doesn't love you back;

2) he doesn't give you the attention or affection you want and need;

3) discussions lead to fights, and;

4) the whole situation makes you miserable.

Do you really think anything is going to change? You seem to want to make him change. He has to offer up these feelings willingly, otherwise it doesn't really count for much. Perhaps you realise you are he are on different wavelengths and that really this isn't going to work in the long-run.

Don't settle for being in a relationship with someone who leave you unsatisfied, neglected and unloved.

[Mathias]

he clearly said he doesn't love her back, why had she even bothered to get into a relationship with him?

That's different than what you said.

[Bluesidhe]

If he doesn't love you he's keeping you around for sex and because at the moment he can't find another girl to put up with his bs. Is that the kind of relationship you want? No? Then leave.

[Mathias]

If he doesn't love you he's keeping you around for sex

These aren't the only two options.

[devonbrown]

It almost sounds like you know you should break up with him but don't want to because you are afraid of being alone. Don't settle for anything less than happiness. Starting over, getting to know someone else, etc. can be a bit of a pain and stressful, but it can also be a fantastic time for you.

Your relationship isn't really a relationship anymore anyway. Just stick a fork in it and move forward.

Breakups hurt, but don't let that fear of hurt keep you in something that is bad.

Good luck.