Originally Posted by
Miseryx3company
Did you think that I haven't thought that its simply lust? I've thought about it plenty of times, over and over and I don't think it is just lust or I wouldn't be here.
I must respectfully tell you to take your head out of your ass and logically think about these feelings you 'believe' you have for him. You don't know him outside of work, the odd oral exercises and a drink or two to get you ready for whatever the two of you do sans penile penetration. Love is an action word and he has not shown you any actions that he loves you nor have you shown him.. sex is not a loving action.. It is just sex (particularily when its under the situation you two are having it.. and yes, oral and hand jobs is sex .. its just not intercourse.) If he's like how he sounds, then I suspect you're not the first girl he's had extra-marital shennanigans with.
There is more to it than I have been able to type in the single paragraph overview I wrote.
Hardly. Like I said, drinking after work and oral sex doesn't equal loving actions. You've let your passion make you think it's love.
I'm just confused. I know that what you're saying is logical and makes sense and you're probably right about him, but I honestly can see myself with him.
Saying you would be fine looking after his daughter without ever having done so are just words, words that help convince you that he's who you should be with yet you take no consideration into the fact that this man is untrustworthy. He's married, doll, that makes him a cheater and you the enabler that allows him to cheat. Think about it.
You are also right about my boyfriend. He has been my first and only serious boyfriend. I know that if we were still meant to be in our relationship I wouldn't be cheating on him. I know I need to leave him and that we have nothing anymore but it's way more complicated than that or I would've left already. I can't leave him right now and you just have to trust me when I say that
Sorry, but whatever this reason is that you don't leave means you're using him right now. I'm thoroughly convinced that if the dirty bastard you're cheating with were to leave his wife tonight... whatever reason you're using not to leave your bf you would totally disregard and off you'd go.
but yes I know I need to experience life single instead of acting like I am. Thank you for your input.
He's cheating his wife and you're cheating yourself. If you leave your bf theny for goodness sakes don't do it because you're lusting after a cheating womanzer.
Did you google "Limerence?" Read the Wiki link to it so you understand that it's not love you are feeling for him.
I suspect that your karma will be that he'll do on you, what he's doing with you.
Last edited by Wakeup; 18-05-13 at 10:56 AM.
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