I'm not ready to get married..

[Mish]

That was really fast, thanks!
I've told her what i'm waiting for.
ok this is wat i say "I'm not financially stable now, and i dont feel comfortable taking the plunge now. I want to make sure i reach a certain level in my finances before i sit down and think about this."
And she'll say "We dont need any money NOW to apply for the house! We only need it 2 years later when it is finished! So what are you worried about??"
She IS the one i want to marry, so that is not a problem...

But you don't NEED to buy a house in order to get married. You don't need to have a favourable financial situation, you can marry being poor. Something tells me that there's another reason why you don't feel ready. Maybe you just don't feel ready for marriage at this point in time? Maybe you feel you need more life experience before settling down?

Be very certain that you are aware of the exact reasons for your actions because you will need to communciate them to your partner.

[Liisa]

well do not hurry in any case!!

[bluesummer]

Marriage is not something to be rushed into. Any woman pressuring a man into marriage is simply doing it out of insecurity.....and you can't let her insecurity force you into something you're not ready for. Besides that, I always believe that when you have doubts about something, it's for a reason. Trust your own judgement.

[Only-virgins]

I would just avoid the issue all together.