Women and control

[Junket]

When I ever get in a relationship.

I'll be doin' the sex manipulation.

w00t

[shh!]

Unless they are pathetic and weak, women always control the relationships, but if they are smart, they allow the man to think THEY are in control (or at least share power).

Edit: I should clarify that this is only AFTER a couple gets married. Before that, then male is usually the one in control, in my experience.

But I would NEVER use sex as a weapon, for the same reason I don't believe in grounding kids (except in extreme cases): Why punish myself?

[Apache]

Just remember that unless "she" admits that she wants it, then no matter how badly you might, there will be no sex b/w the both of you.

Thanks...some great advice. I'll keep in in mind if she decides
to come back to me. I gave her walking papers yesterday. Enough
is enough.

I never thought of it as abuse....and it really was. It should be 50/50.

And I think some folks here mis-understood what I was saying. What I
meant by controlling using sex was...(her) "no you won't have sex with me today because I don't feel like it".

Not in the mood is one thing. But to deny your partner simply because you feel like being a (female dog word) is another. I can accept being bitchy...just not 24/7 like it was. But Aaron is correct...I should have denied giving it to her when she wanted it. But then it really is just a game. I dislike games.....

[Tone]

Everything about you is always sex-related.. gets old.

*yawn*

[GrkScorp]

Thanks...some great advice. I'll keep in in mind if she decides
to come back to me. I gave her walking papers yesterday. Enough
is enough.

I never thought of it as abuse....and it really was. It should be 50/50.

And I think some folks here mis-understood what I was saying. What I
meant by controlling using sex was...(her) "no you won't have sex with me today because I don't feel like it".

Not in the mood is one thing. But to deny your partner simply because you feel like being a (female dog word) is another. I can accept being bitchy...just not 24/7 like it was. But Aaron is correct...I should have denied giving it to her when she wanted it. But then it really is just a game. I dislike games.....

no no no!!!

i hate to say it, but i have to disagree with aaron on this one...

apache, u said it yourself, you dislike games.. so y do u wanna persisit at the whole... "oh really? ur not in the mood? guess what? i'm not in the mood!!!" game...

first of all, you should never be in a relationship where the other person controls you... it also depends on the nature of your girlfriend... if she's the kind that knows she has control over you, and uses it to manipulate you and control u.. then why are u still with her??? the same way that if you were to have control over the relationship, and exploited it.. she should not be with you to begin with...

the notion of control over a relationship is clearly misunderstood, and therefore abused by the ones who find themselves in control...

i think it's cruel and sinister, in fact, nothing less than deviant; to manipulate and exploit the weakness of your bf/gf in order to have them "do your bidding"...

don't forget apache, we like to place the blame on women, but you forget about the guys who abuse women to... wheather it be in marrige or be4, i know alot of guys who say that they aren't going to get their gf stuff, go places, or even tell them they're going to leave or cheat on them, if their gf's don't do something for them... now you tell me.. isn't that messed up???

the same way that you may see this manifest itself into women when they "hold out", or themselves tell you that they're about to leave or cheat on you...

don't forget apache, every guy and girl is different... i don't know u on a personal level, but if you find the need to have sex more often than she does... it might only SEEM to you that she's holding out on you... maybe she just never wants to have sex... big deal.. i'm shur u two can find some other stuff that's just as fun...

[Late_vamp]

wow , well my GF always used to admit when she was horny ( always or at least most of the time ), so not all girls are the same , but i think that idf she says she doesnt want to have sex because she DOESNT FEEL like it ... then thats BS because you have to have a reason why you dont feel like it ...like your not horny ( wich can also be bS because were ALL humans)... your too tired ( i find it stupid when women say this because all they do is spread their legs and lay down ...moan ...for the most part of em )... so i think shes just being a pain in the ass prob because shes mad at you for some reason ( woman ... they just CANT let guys know without head games ...most of them at least )

[misombra]

Everything about you is always sex-related.. gets old.

*yawn*

i either agree or that yawn was contageous.

[Apache]

Everything about you is always sex-related.. gets old.

*yawn*

i either agree or that yawn was contageous.

Maybe the two of you should get together and have sex....you both seem
like a pair of frustrated people, and from the same mold as well.

Now grow up....and contribute to these threads properly, instead
of attacking people directly....that gets old, boring actually.

*Bored Yawn*

[misombra]

well since i'm so frustrated maybe i should have sex with you apache, since you're sooooooooo good.

[Apache]

well since i'm so frustrated maybe i should have sex with you apache, since you're sooooooooo good.

Thank you for the gracious offer....but I will have to pass.
There's only room for one penis in my bed....even if yours
is imaginary.

[Tone]

Everything about you is always sex-related.. gets old.

Maybe the two of you should get together and have sex....

*yawn*


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[Apache]

*yawn*


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Get some sleep....it might help

[Tone]

I agree, I was up an hour past my bedtime last night >:[

[misombra]

imaginary penis?

oooooooooookay. \

your insults make so little sense i can't even get bothered by them.

ah, i probably wouldn't be bothered by them anyway.

[Apache]

imaginary penis?

oooooooooookay. \

your insults make so little sense i can't even get bothered by them.

ah, i probably wouldn't be bothered by them anyway.

Oh no ...that was meant to be taken completely as a compliment, not an insult.

And I apologize that it did not make sense to you. But if I had
said it any other way, it would have been an insult.