Originally Posted by
LailaK
I'm black and I've dated all races. My current bf is white.
I find it a turn off when guys approach me because I'm black. I've literally had white guys corner me in a club to tell me how much they love black women/my ass/hair/skin etc. Instead of being flattering it makes me uncomfortable because I feel like they only want to date/sleep with me because of physical reasons, not because of who I am as a person. I usually end up feeling objectified, even if that wasn't the guy's intent.
I understand having a preference. Hell, I have a preference myself. I have a huge thing for nerdy men. But I'm not dating my boyfriend because he's a huge nerd I'm dating him because I like him. Just like he's dating me because he likes the person I am, not merely for a physical reason.
Bottom line: You should probably approach the woman you want as if she were any other woman. Get to know her, have fun, and don't obsess about her outer appearance (while talking to her or picking her up) or you may turn her off.