Virgin Talk

[daletom]

My first time, and some advice, is described here: [URL=http://www.loveforum.net/showthread.php?p=34897#post34897]Wedding Night Virgins[/URL]

in your opinion, what is the best place for you and a girl(or guy) to lose virginity(if you are under 18 and dont have your own place/car)?

You need a place wher you two can be alone for an extended time. Several hours, at least; overnight or a whole day is really best. It needs bathroom facilities, comforts like a bed and blankets, access to food (like a restaurant or kitchen). If you can't get a hotel room, and neither of you are ever left at home for a day or more, and you don't have an older brother or sister who can loan an apartment, you'll just have to be patient and wait.

what is the most comfortable position for a girl when she is having sex for the first time(and her cherry hasnt been popped)?

She will be on top so she can guide you in. She can move around to get the right angle (you won't be able to tell), the rate and depth that she can best adjust to.

what are things a guy can do to make the 'first time' more comfortable and pleasurable for the girl?

There's some more advice in the links from [URL=http://www.loveforum.net/showthread.php?p=112008#post112008]This Post[/URL] Also some VERY GOOD material in the links from [URL=http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?postid=236005#post236005]This Page[/URL] (you will have to register with the site but it's a FREE, NON-COMMERCIAL site that does not spam you!).

Is this something you're being pressured into doing by your G/F, your friends, or her friends? Then you probably shouldn't do it.

Are you wanting to do something just to say that you've done it? You'll have to decide whether having the "bragging rights" are worth it. Few people who do it for this reason think it was worth it in hindsight.

Are you trying to learn an activity because you'd like to do it well? Find an experienced, patient teacher who will coach you. She'll probably be at least 25 years old.

Is your relationship at a point where you want to give a special, physically pleasurable expression of your affection? If you've chosen the right girl, and you're both truly ready, it won't matter what you do or how you perform. But you CAN work at making it as enjoyable and memorable as possible

If you're both inexperienced you have a great opportunity to learn together. You're not doing it "to" her - you're doing something "with" her. There isn't a strict list of "right" or "wrong" ways to pleasure each other - each couple has to discover what's most enjoyable for themselves. Tell her to coach, guide and advise you. And make sure you do the same for her! Take it slow - you have plenty of time to learn from each other.

Make sure you're ready for this. There are a whole lot of web pages that deal with both the mental and physical aspects of your first sexual relationship.

Since your question is mostly conerned with the physical, I think most of the advice boils down to this:
1. Make sure you're mentally and emotionally ready for this. Most young people are not mature enough to discuss this with people who can give them really good advice, so it's important that they do a good job of thinking it through on their own.
2. Especially if you're both virgins, plan for the event.
3. Allow plenty of time. A whole day is good; an entire weekend may be better.
4. Make sure you have plenty of privacy.
5. Become comfortable with each others' bodies. Develop familiarity with each others' orgasmic responses beforehand. Yes, that means necking, heavy petting and oral sex. At the least this will take several weeks; several months is probably more reasonable.
6. Be sure you have some method of birth control and use it correctly. Condoms are NOT the best choice for virgins.
7. Start the encounter with her bringing you to climax (with her mouth or hands, or you do it yourself). Make sure you expect this to happen and co-operate. That will help you keep the control you need, and give her the time she needs, to mutually enjoy the experience.
8. Don't attempt insertion until after she's had an orgasm. This guarantees that she's as relaxed, open and lubricated as she'll ever be. For many girls, this will happen with her thighs around his ears - something that she's already taught you to do well.
9. She gets on top. This lets her control positioning, angles, how fast, how deep, etc.
10. She thinks, "I'm going to envelope his erection with my vagina.", NOT "He's gonna stick that into me."
11. The most important time is right afterwards. Allow for lots of cuddle time. Both partners need to be open and communicative with each other.
12. The first time matters as much, or more, to guys as it does to girls. It may matter differently, but it's just as significant.

you get to the place you are going to have sex and you both are planning to have sex...how do you start it without ripping her clothes off and unleashing the beast within and making yourself look like an immature boy who is just using her to get some?

If you two are really ready, you will have experience with making love to each other WITHOUT intercourse, and this time will start pretty much the same as those other times.

i know what a g-spot is, and i have fingered my girlfriend before. i think i might have found hers but im not positively sure...how do you tell its that special spot? where(in general) is the g-spot?

There are a bazillion web pages about it. Your best bet is to just forget about the G-spot and learn to pleasure your partner. If she's ready she'll help you learn. If tou feel like you're fumbling around on your own, you're probably pushing things farther or faster than she's really ready to go.

you are sitting there watching a movie you and your girlfriend have already seen and she asks you what you wanna do. you think she is hinting off to something like fingering, what would you do?

That's not much of a hint. If she's really interested in something sexual, she'll be more obvious about it. Next time it happens, suggest something where you two actually interact with each other, rather than being passively entertained by something else, and see if she leads to sexual things. Something like, "Let's take a walk.", "Let's read poetry (or a short story) to each other.", or "Let's play Scrabble.".

[Ellynn]

Thats only a 2 year difference.

Yeah........doesn't seem like much.....but alot happens between the time your 16 and your 18. Once you turn 18 you either graduate high school or already are in college. Your kinda at that point in your life where you become an adult. People tend to wait until then......true....some don't wait as long....and some wait longer... But I think that because of high school pressure and college pressure....alot of women tend to lose their virginity around that age......

All i know is that the older you get...the harder it is to find someone in your age range....that is a virgin....

[lilwing89]

daletom- thats the biggest, and most informative, and well written post of advice i have ever read.

also i want to include, my gf, nor her friends are tempting me into having any sex.. i dont want any bragging rights, its true that i want to express my feelings for her through sexual contact. and that is the only reason i really wanna have sex. plus hormones kinda keep me this way..

im willing to wait for this girl because she is worth everything i think she is worth, and ilove her for everything she is

thank god for porno though!

[Junket]

Personally my goal was always to wait until I was at least out of high school.....and ended up being 20....when it first happened.

I could beat that.

Hell, I think OV already has.

[Only-virgins]

I could beat that.

Hell, I think OV already has.

Im 22. Damn straight.

[Only-virgins]

Yeah........doesn't seem like much.....but alot happens between the time your 16 and your 18. Once you turn 18 you either graduate high school or already are in college.

Everyones different in that area. You know what they say, "High school is the "best" times of your life. Boy did that saying flop in my case.

I think that because of high school pressure and college pressure....alot of women tend to lose their virginity around that age......

Excuses excuses.

[Junsui]

Everyones different in that area. You know what they say, "High school is the "best" times of your life. Boy did that saying flop in my case.

I thought it was college?

[Only-virgins]

I thought it was college?

Well if thats the case its currently flopping. College is nothing but going there....then going home.

[gHEXjt]

Well if thats the case its currently flopping. College is nothing but going there....then going home.

This couldn't be more true. I had a much better time in hs, and I thought high school completely sucked. The difference being that I did jackshit in hs, and in college I actually care about my grades, so it sucks even more.

[Junsui]

I guess it depends on what you make of it. I think you're doing the smart thing caring more about grades than being out there partying anyways. I obviously didn't make the right decision when I first started college lol.

[Only-virgins]

This couldn't be more true. I had a much better time in hs, and I thought high school completely sucked. The difference being that I did jackshit in hs, and in college I actually care about my grades, so it sucks even more.

Man, thats just like me.

[BlackRose]

what is the most comfortable position for a girl when she is having sex for the first time(and her cherry hasnt been popped)?

i know what a g-spot is, and i have fingered my girlfriend before.

If your girlfriend still has her hymen, how exactly did you finger her and possibly find her g-spot without breaking it?

[Only-virgins]

If your girlfriend still has her hymen, how exactly did you finger her and possibly find her g-spot without breaking it?

Will it pop if iyou finger it? ...wouldn't the cherry be ...ummm...gone right after puberty then ? since there is no soul alive that doesnt masterbate at least.

[lilwing89]

i think she still has her hymen cause i tried to stick 2 fingers in before and it hurt her so i stopped. i think i found her g spot cause my finger would penetrate and her pelvis would go out of control..i remember a spot about 2 inches in that was rougher than the rest..i think. on average how far in is it?

[gHEXjt]

i think she still has her hymen cause i tried to stick 2 fingers in before and it hurt her so i stopped. i think i found her g spot cause my finger would penetrate and her pelvis would go out of control..i remember a spot about 2 inches in that was rougher than the rest..i think. on average how far in is it?

I think its usually a little bit further than two inches. I've typically been able to reach the g-spot w/the tip of the middle finger. And it doesn't feel rough, it feels like a big bump.