BF checks out other women..constantly.

[Tone]

Ditch this scumbag... he has an excuse for everything you call him out on. "Oh I was just seein if she look like Brittney Spears or not.. Oh I was seein did I know her from somewhere... oh I was seein what her outfit was like to know should I buy you one.."

I mean, for cryin out loud he even did it around your GRANDMOTHER???

Grade A LOSER is what this guy seems like to me. To be honest, I dunno that you should be with this guy... I'm sure if he's this inconsiderate about somethin so simple as this - it will only lead to him being inconsiderate about other issues. I'd get out.

[Rosebud]

OK so maybe some things could be explained by his looks but even still I think he's being very disrespectful.. If you have talked to him about this and he has just lied or denied it or whatever..then you have to figure out if you want to put up with it anymore and go from there.

[Karson05]

I know, the whole thing with my grandma seeing it was sort of disturbing. He does have a lot of excuses for it. It still doesn't justify it. I asked him if he is like this when I am not around, which chances are he is, and he says that he isn't. Why did I even ask that dumb question?

Why do you think he is so fixated on other women like that?

[Rosebud]

Don't even worry about trying to figure it out.... It will make you even more upset if you do that.. Just decided if you are willing to put up with this or not and then act on it hun!

[Junsui]

Maybe he's just a perv or wants to hook up with these other women. Get out of it either way.

[Asip4u]

Don't even worry about trying to figure it out.... It will make you even more upset if you do that.. Just decided if you are willing to put up with this or not and then act on it hun!

i agree...some girls will put up with it even if they don't like it...she has to choose...i'll add, that he most likely will NOT change his ways.

[Tone]

How old is he?

I think he's just dumb, to be honest. He doesn't know when to stop.

Or he could really be just that inconsiderate to your feelings.

[Karson05]

I completely forgot to mention that we live together! I guess it adds to my feelings of unattractiveness because what if he doesn't like who he wakes up to? Maybe not, but this is how it is making me feel.

Whoever is reading this, please add your thoughts. I thank those of you who took the time to respond. I am off for a bit, but I will check later.

[Karson05]

He is 35, soon to be 36 in one month. I guess he should know better, right?

[Tone]

Oh yeah.

Wow.

Scumbag.

Well - you guys have had conversations about this right? I mean he IS aware how much this bothers you right? I guess I should find this out before completely writin this guy off a jerkoff.

[Karson05]

Yes, we talked about it. Or I seethed and he expressed remorse. It sounded the same as before. (when we talked about the "britney spears incident") He said back then that he wouldn't do that to me anymore because he didn't want me to feel hurt or bothered by it.

He claims that he is sooo embarrassed and guilt ridden over doing it. But if something like that doesn't feel as good as you wanted it to, then why even do it? I was right beside him while he did all of this and he says that he doesn't want it to affect me? I don't get it.

[vashti]

I think you should get Lloyd's perspective on this behavior. It is extremely obnoxious. I don't know why some men do this, but I know that my sister complains about her husband doing it, and my sister is HOT. I don't really think men who do this are conscious of doing it, but clearly he has a problem with objectifying women. It's not about you, Karson. He has some sort of issue, and he is trying to blame you for it.

Bottom line, I think you need to decide whether or not you are willing to put up with it. People learn what is acceptable and what is not based on what others are willing to tolerate.

I would DIE if my grandmother found it to be so blatant that she actually commented on it.

[gingerbabe86]

all his excuses and his actions are just clues that he just might cheat on u later on... and his excuses are just lame and stupid.. i mean who would believe him anyways... if my bf was like that i wouldn't tolerate it and just break it up with him.. u'r an awesome women and the way he's treating u is just crap.. seriously the going out with u'r grandmother part really pisses me off.. i mean have some respect when u'r standing beside an elderly and not checking out girls when u'r grandmother knows u'r with him... even u'r grandmother can see he's looking at other girl's asses.. i would of just ****en yelled at him and be bitchy about it

[carpflounder]

You need to work on satisfying your man..man is sexual..he is just being a man.

[Karson05]

You need to work on satisfying your man..man is sexual..he is just being a man.

Thank you for that amazing bit of wisdom!! Now man can beat chest for that comment.

Last time I checked..all men were NOT like that. Even if they are, they just shouldn't be that way when their girlfriend/wife is around.