Stay together or not?

[Mish]

I do not associate the lack of sex with the lack of love. I love my boyfriend very much. What I am confused about is whether the love I feel for him is the type I would feel for a close friend rather than for a boyfriend. There is no passion in our relationship = no sex. I have tried to do things to spice things up and I have tried talking to him about it. It has not worked.

Oh I know, believe me I know

But consider this, if you bf was a sex animal in bed, you wouldn't be so confused would you and you would think that you are in a perfect relationship. Thus my original statement in respect to your situation is very very true

You have to figure out for yourself what's important to you and I think some of these decisions can only be reached from experience. Maybe you need to end this and get out there for some serious humping, before you can come to the same conclusion as the rest of us (I.e. personality is the most important factor in the relationship and everything else is secondary)

[shh!]

I guess in a way, I associate sex with love. After all, sex is the most intimate you can be with one physically. After all, for a woman, you are allowing another human INTO your body. If there is no sex happening, then that level of intimacy is also not happening.

That is not to say there are not other meaningful types of intimacy.