Random Sex/one nighters

[Converse]

Hey,
It's happened to me twice and to be honest I thought it would bother me but it doesn't. Ah well! It's all experience I suppose and I enjoyed it so whats the problem. As long as you don't feel emotionally attached afterwards and you used protection then hey! At least it got rid of my intense horniness for a while.

Yeah I totally agree, I feel like shit now but that'll go.

[misombra]

yuck. i hate feeling like shit after sex. i've been there before and i'd rather be sexless and lonely then feel that way.

[Converse]

yuck. i hate feeling like shit after sex. i've been there before and i'd rather be sexless and lonely then feel that way.

True, I'm making a mountain out of a mole hill I think, urgh lack of sleep the past few days.

[misombra]

as long as you used a condom, you'll be okay. the feeling will wear off. is yours the guy who wants to see you again?

[Converse]

as long as you used a condom, you'll be okay. the feeling will wear off. is yours the guy who wants to see you again?

Yeah he sent me a text on my phone asking if I wanna go out Friday night, dunno if I can be bothered to be honest, probably will seems nice enough.

[Pears]

On topic - it's not for me. I honestly think sex should be something more special, and not something I'm willing to share with just any random person.

I agree with Tone. If sex is done all the time with random people, there would be no special element to it. Just like if the word "love" is used with everyone, then it wouldn't be as special when you use it towards someone you really love.

I would say I'm very conservative. I've never had a relationship that's less than two years. It would take me a while before I even think about sex.

[toohot4pants]

sex doesn't have to be special...

when you're in a long term relationship or marriage, the sex isn't always special...depending on how often you have sex, it's quite possible that it's usually not special. often times, it's just about getting off and getting your partner off.

so what do you do if you're not in a relationship? masturbate? sure...you can masturbate. or you can find some likeminded individual who you can ****. as long as you're both on the same page...that it's just physical...then i see nothing wrong whatsoever. i've had many short flings and onenight stands...and the vast majority of them were great. there were a few times where the girl sorta changed her tone...and sorta wanted more than sex...and i think she was hurt a little. but hey...there are NO innocents in the war of love and sex...sometimes we get destroyed, sometimes we do the destroying...

[Converse]

sex doesn't have to be special...

when you're in a long term relationship or marriage, the sex isn't always special...depending on how often you have sex, it's quite possible that it's usually not special. often times, it's just about getting off and getting your partner off.

so what do you do if you're not in a relationship? masturbate? sure...you can masturbate. or you can find some likeminded individual who you can ****. as long as you're both on the same page...that it's just physical...then i see nothing wrong whatsoever. i've had many short flings and onenight stands...and the vast majority of them were great. there were a few times where the girl sorta changed her tone...and sorta wanted more than sex...and i think she was hurt a little. but hey...there are NO innocents in the war of love and sex...sometimes we get destroyed, sometimes we do the destroying...

I agree. Imagine if you've been single for about 2 years and no sex, I couldn't do that.

[Only-virgins]

You're gonna end up being a virgin forever.

Your so clever.

[Converse]

Your so clever.

I know.

It's 'You're' btw. :]

[Only-virgins]

I know.

It's 'You're' btw. :]

It's "by the way", not "btw". :}

[Converse]

It's "by the way", not "btw". :}

It can be used like that, your 'word' however can not be used without looking like an idiot.

[clynn]

It really is personal.

I mean, did you know him at all? Or did you just meet him that night?

In the case where I just met the guy that night, the whole event was really no big deal, feed my ego and satisfied my need for sex....but ultimately was hollow and even the sex wasn't that good. But ashamed and cruddy? Those emotions you should just shake off as soon as possible, they are useless except to make you feel bad, and you shouldn't feel bad.

HOWEVER....if it is someone I've known for a while but haven't been dating, but who I'm attracted to and end up "hooking up" with - I've been thrown into a situation where I end up liking them and this has had both good and bad consequences. Good, because I end up dating them and all is well. Bad....if my feelings get hurt.

So, mostly I would try my best to let go of any shame you might be feeling. You're probably mostly feeling crappy because you're overtired and hungover. Drink lots of water, have a good meal and a good sleep and you'll feel bunches better.

Hmm.....wonder what it'll be like next week?

Also, I can think of 4 friends just off the top of my head who are married / engaged to guys they just "hooked up" with and slept with right off the bat. Turns out they were powerfully attracted to each other and it translated into workable longterm relationships.

[Converse]

It really is personal.

I mean, did you know him at all? Or did you just meet him that night?

In the case where I just met the guy that night, the whole event was really no big deal, feed my ego and satisfied my need for sex....but ultimately was hollow and even the sex wasn't that good. But ashamed and cruddy? Those emotions you should just shake off as soon as possible, they are useless except to make you feel bad, and you shouldn't feel bad.

HOWEVER....if it is someone I've known for a while but haven't been dating, but who I'm attracted to and end up "hooking up" with - I've been thrown into a situation where I end up liking them and this has had both good and bad consequences. Good, because I end up dating them and all is well. Bad....if my feelings get hurt.

So, mostly I would try my best to let go of any shame you might be feeling. You're probably mostly feeling crappy because you're overtired and hungover. Drink lots of water, have a good meal and a good sleep and you'll feel bunches better.

Hmm.....wonder what it'll be like next week?

Also, I can think of 4 friends just off the top of my head who are married / engaged to guys they just "hooked up" with and slept with right off the bat. Turns out they were powerfully attracted to each other and it translated into workable longterm relationships.

Thanx. :]

Just randomly met him last night, so I guess OV's comment 'whore' is valid, but **** it I had a good time, I don't care any more.

[Only-virgins]

It can be used like that, your 'word' however can not be used without looking like an idiot.

That is strictly an opinion.