You keep saying you can't deal with her for now, but I think that the reason you are feeling this way is because of the excessive amount of time you spend communicating with her throughout the day on a regular basis. I mean, jeez, Blackie! I don't talk to my huband that frequently in a single day, not even when my babies were small!
Maybe if you drew clearer, more manageable boundaries at the start, you wouldn't get to the point where you need the "time out". You've gotta pace yourself, my friend!
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?