the lovebug is going to infest you

**lovebug** · 16-02-04, 11:01 AM

when i talk to people about love..and hear what they have to say, we tend to agree and say the same thing. as do most websites..movies and what not

but people arent paying attention to what isnt being said. like how married couples tend to stop caring about their friends after a certain amount of years. to the point, like most married couples today..dont have any.

it gives me the impression that they believe..once you find that sexual lover, theres just no use in having any friends..and if you have any...its ok to forget them

i even saw a cartoon once..that basically implied..its ok to let your best friend die..as long as you get the chick.

people arent really saying what i said in that first part of how to find true love. but they imply it in everything they do. just look at..everything! this forum. how many threads are only about sexual love?

this is a love forum isnt? then why is like..like so many other forums..implying that other forms of love are less important? less worth to talk about? im assuming its becuase people trully believe sex is somehow so great..if that person doesnt have sex with you , they are less important

this generation has to be more open to other forms of love..becuase we simply are. i know..my friends...and their friends..and all of us together have MORE FRIENDS compared to our parents when they were our age.

if you have close friends you cant afford to be like my parents generation. to get married and forget them. i dont want me and my friends to be like them. if we get married..we get married together, and our children will grow up together too

i just somehow feel..if people trully understood that true love is in all relationships..then every relationship they have will benefit. including marriage

and i also feel..if i didnt write that first part first...you would have ignored the forum

**squirrley** · 16-02-04, 07:42 PM

thats not true. You just started in here, and there are a lot of great people who have known true love, are in it, or want it, and not based on sex. We may talk about sex, but certainly dont suggest its a means to an end when it comes to true love.

Since I've been here, it's all I've found. Those whom I've become close to, well, would give anything to have the truest form of love. Its been discussed what the meaning of love is to that person, and it was deep, but mostly people cant descirbe it, they just know it. Its not a fair assumption that you think everyone here is a sex craved maniac and dont know what love is, because they do or are trying to find it and want it. This forum isnt just about "love" its about everything that circles around it as well.

**Innova** · 16-02-04, 11:50 PM

And I one of them....

**jane** · 17-02-04, 06:37 AM

Ditto,

Lovebug, you jumped to conclusions hun.. we are all about the meaning of love here!

**MVPlaya** · 17-02-04, 07:57 AM

LoveBug,

Reading your post just made me realize how glad I am that I am still a virgin.

**Innova** · 17-02-04, 08:09 AM

ROFL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

**jane** · 17-02-04, 08:17 AM

OMFG...

**Innova** · 17-02-04, 08:23 AM

dun dun dun!

**squirrley** · 17-02-04, 09:41 AM

ok, so some of us are about sex...

**jane** · 17-02-04, 09:56 AM

me please?? ROFL..

**Love_Again?** · 20-02-04, 07:59 AM

I don't know if I agree with all of your philosophy, lovebug. I personally believe that love with your lover, significant other or spouse is different than the type of love you give or receive from your friends and family. I believe the first kind of love is more like true love and it trancsends other types. I do not have a problem putting those peole that I love deeply, like friends or family, on hold while I share my time and resources with the ONE that I love. And, in loving me, my family and friends understand this and allow me to sacrifice my friend or family time with them. Of course this cannot happen all the time where the lovers appear to be trapped and can never associate with others, but definitely more time and affection is devoted to that ONE and it is a different type of love. At least that's my opinion.

**lovebug** · 21-02-04, 02:01 PM

its a sexual type of love that doesnt last forever, whereas a spiritual kind does

i doubt you love your friends as much as you love your lover or you wouldnt put them on hold

and why do people love their friends less?

**squirrley** · 21-02-04, 09:35 PM

They dont love their friends less. Its not a romantic form of love.

You love your family unconditionaly, youre friends you love because you chose them as your friends, you love them unconditionally also. You certainly dont romanticize about being sexually active with these people. OR your pets!

Its incest if you're in love with a family member! That's wrong, and you obvioulsy know that from the bible.

I dont love my family less or friends less as opposed to the love I have for a partner. They're just different feelings and emotions when expressed.

How do you know a sexual love doesnt last forever? There are many couples in this world who have been together 30, 40, 50, and 60 years(my granparents are one) who STILL have that form of love. You cant say that it doesnt last, people have already proven you wrong there. Granted there arent many left in todays society, which is sad, but it does exist.

When you do have love for your family, friends, and partner, no one gets put on hold, you take the time out for that person, and do what you have to do for them.

Its simple and complicated, but the fact remains, love in many forms is Gods gift to us.

**lovebug** · 22-02-04, 02:17 AM

thats what im trying to get at..putting people on hold just so your life can be more romantic with that one person is wrong. things can happen

my sisters friend committed suicide after breaking up with his girlfriend..convinced no one loved him. but the reality was he had so many friends who did. but my sister and her friends all put eachother on hold...just to live more romantically or erotically

and look what happened. a man died because they werent there for him, becuase they put him on hold to spend more time with their boyfriends and girlfriends. and becuase he put them hold to spend more time with a girlfriend who didnt care. his suicide didnt happen over night. he was depressed for a long time before he killed himself. none of his friends or my sister knew he was depressed until he died

sometimes its not what you did, but what you didnt do for someone that hurts them. like putting them on hold

**lovebug** · 22-02-04, 02:36 AM

and about sexual love lasting forever...

well..my belief is religious, so you can ignore it. there is no sexual love in heaven or even hell. when you die, so does sexual love or desires

which is why the bible says its ok to remarry after your loved one has died. becuase..although while they still love you from heaven, they have no intention of having you sexually

and this is why the bible says its ok to remarry. becuase the christian marraige is......sexual. and the chrisitan marraige is there for a very natural purpose..having sex and creating a family together *esp..if youre catholic* this doesnt take place in heaven. alot of people find this to be a bad thing..they feel as though this means they dont love their lover anymore after death or arent allowed to, and that their should be marraige in heaven...but this is becuase they dont understand the nature of platonic love

anyways back on track......your spirit lasts forever....therefore so does platonic love. sexual lovers last forever..only if they also love eachother spiritually. its important that you can always concider your lover a friend also

does anyone have problems believing in a marriageless heaven?

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