It's been 5 years still did not forgive

[FrenchMaid]

Hey ZRO
Yep you don't know my story and really i really don't care, because they way you talk to me... Let me asking you a question... fist of all he's the one which wanted me to say.. and then tell me why is that its ok for him to bit me up and get away with that I am a slot, get a grip buddy.... really....you have no right to call me a slot... every one make mistake in their live.... I guess you never did such a thing you... right

[FrenchMaid]

Thanks Vashti, I forgeve him the way the treated me and its hard...got get hit by someone who tell you he care about is hard to take and bring you pretty low..

[FrenchMaid]

Yes I know beamer..
but at least he can try...

[Gigabitch]

First of all, the word "slot" has now entered my vocabulary.

I don't know if it's reasonable to expect that he will ever forgive you. He certainly seems to be holding on to it, doesn't he?

I, myself, would never forgive sexual betrayal, whether it involved actual intercourse or not. Never.

[FrenchMaid]

First of all, the word "slot" has now entered my vocabulary.

I don't know if it's reasonable to expect that he will ever forgive you. He certainly seems to be holding on to it, doesn't he?

I, myself, would never forgive sexual betrayal, whether it involved actual intercourse or not. Never.

Well so I guess that i should hold againts him that he gave me a black eye, he grab me by the troath so hard that I had marks for day after he trow me on the floor and started to kick me on the back and head.... I should forgive that right... that nothing... its ok... for him to kick the crap out of you, punch you in the face for no reason and wow.. i am amaze....

And its ok with that for him to go visit my girl friend before i had that stuff with that guy way before,... and lied to me about it... so if he lied to me then something might happen .... I use to see her after wards and she use to tell me "guess who came to see me yesterday" well i had no clue she told me him....for hours... so screw that shit... that you can't forgive people I had to i never put this back on him and he didn't do it more then once.. and who know what happen between them i will never know... but me i told him..
What ever that your opinion... but just remember that when you love someone you have to forgive... i did.. and trust me it was not easy...

[FrenchMaid]

Forgiveness... thay say it's healthy. The jury is still out on my opinion. If you even have a shot to be forgiven of cheating (and cheating is much more than intercourse), count yourself extremely lucky.

Yes i know that cheating is much more then intercourse....but he's the one who told me to stay... so why... so he can harass me for the rest of my life and when ever he feel that he did not get the whole true bit me, or treated me like shit..... i don't think so... he should of tell me right away.. get out and go on... not keep me there and abuse me when ever he wants...and drain me mentally and physically...
but i guess that your opinion! Everyone is aloud to have different one

[meh]

So he beats you up, chokes you half to death and makes your life a living hell.
You cheat on him and just because he (for what ever reason) doesn't dump your ass, you expect him to forgive you.

Why are you still in this relationship? Got kids?

[vashti]

Oh, yeah. Now I remember. He is a real bastard, and Frenchie should leave him, but she won't. She has a kid.

[FrenchMaid]

So he beats you up, chokes you half to death and makes your life a living hell.
You cheat on him and just because he (for what ever reason) doesn't dump your ass, you expect him to forgive you.

Why are you still in this relationship? Got kids?

Yes i have a 14 yrs old son!
You know, you kind of sound sarcastic... "chokes you half to death" i am not exagerated here... and he has hit me way before what happen with that guy!
At one point i had to leave the house, the doc at the hospital told me that if i don't, he will charge him...he told me that he would not to this again but he always can't manage his anger, well better now for the pass 3 years.. and its not because of the cheating it happen before that...

And regarding the cheating if you want to call it like that... (well he initiated a 3 somes many times with him (that guy) when i did not really want too because I was nervous of what could happen sometime people get mix feeling.. he wanted that.. not me... I got to like the guy and i told him that i did not wanted to to this anymore... but he insisted... so .. in this kind of situation, when your bf does not treated you good sometime its very difficult not to look on the other side of the fence.. i told him but he disregard my warning....

[FrenchMaid]

So he beats you up, chokes you half to death and makes your life a living hell.
You cheat on him and just because he (for what ever reason) doesn't dump your ass, you expect him to forgive you.

Why are you still in this relationship? Got kids?

I am still in this relationship because i have been with the guy for 19 years...
I yes i am not dum i know what i did was not approprite but i also know that if people make mistake and regret what they done, thing can change...I did it one, he hit me more than that and I don't say nothing to him regarding this only that he should go for counselling for management of his anger...

With been so long with someone you experience a lots of now challenge in your relationship its not always pink... YOU LIVE AND LEARN.. that what life is all about, is in it?

[FrenchMaid]

Oh, yeah. Now I remember. He is a real bastard, and Frenchie should leave him, but she won't. She has a kid.

Hi VASHTI!

[vashti]

Frenchie, what are you waiting for? Are you gonna *finally* leave him when he starts to hurt your kid? (HAS he started in with your kid yet?)

[FrenchMaid]

Oh, yeah. Now I remember. He is a real bastard, and Frenchie should leave him, but she won't. She has a kid.

Hi VASHTI!

Where all the other people when i haven't see them here anymore... like TAVS.. ect...i can't remember the other guy and girl... oupps... i guess the age get to me...

[vashti]

TAVS doesn't post here anymore, but I'll try to remember to mention you to him next time I talk to him. I don't know who else you remember... maybe lloyd? He doesn't post here anymore, either. Misombra is still here. do you remember her? She posts here, but not all that often.

[FrenchMaid]

Frenchie, what are you waiting for? Are you gonna *finally* leave him when he starts to hurt your kid? (HAS he started in with your kid yet?)

No he would never does nothing to his son, its me that he after...he treated his son like gold!