She says she loves me but isn't ready to be in as serious relationship

[TheSphinx]

...you're willing to take this feeble offering just for the companionship, I have to wonder if you're also afraid of commitment.

Or afraid of not being able to find another woman if you drop things with Sara, and thus you tolerate her sitting on the fence about a lot of issues in the relationship.

It's up to you to decide what you will do with your time, but I think Sara's true feelings will come out once she realizes you are going to go after what you want, even if that means finding another relationship.

~Sphinx

[CaliforniaLove]

Hello again everyone. Well I think you all have helpful things to say. I've just decided to take a step back take care of myself and I believe time will tell if I'm someone who's worth having a serious relationship with. Thank you all for your help and I'll let you know if anything changes.

[CaliforniaLove]

Oh, I know that I want to be with someone who is willing to put in what it takes to make a relationship work and I know I'll find that someone. I know I'm worthy of a serious relationship and if Sara doesn't see that I'm sure there is someone who will.

[Gigabitch]

My current boyfriend had this exact experience with someone named Sara in California before he and I got together. He reached the point where he needed to know if it was going to happen with her or not, and she couldn't commit, so he bowed out.

Do you think it might be the same Sara?

[CaliforniaLove]

Hey, everyone! It's been a while sense I gave everyone an update with what's going on with Sara and I. I broke up/ended our dating experience with her this week. We agreed to maintain our friendship but we've ended the romance at least for now. Over the last two weeks we've had many long discussions about our relationship and concluded that we're just in too different places. She wants to have the benefits and the security of a serious relationship when it is convenient for her but wants the freedom to date and see other people any other time. That's what really wasn't working for me. I wasn't having a difficult time with the two of us dating other people but after several months it gets to the point where I had to ask myself why am I dating and why is she dating. And my conclusion was that I'm dating to find someone who's interest is finding someone to commit too, and she's not there yet. She's dating to have a good time, and she has an admitted fear of commitment. She just recently said to me "I don't know what I want."

So I told her until she's ready to "DATE" me seriously that we needed to end our romantic relationship. I think this entire time I wanted to know what our status was, and what I realize is that our status was and is "good friends" and so I thought our relationship should reflect that right now. So I put the romance on hold.

Perhaps one day we'll be on the same page, because I am in love with her. Which made this entire experience more difficult, but I deserve better and it's about time I recognize that.