How do women feel about virgin guys?

[IndiReloaded]

You wouldn't think a 40-year old virgin woman has issues? I beg to differ.

[Only-virgins]

You wouldn't think a 40-year old virgin woman has issues? I beg to differ.

Not really, only thing is that it might make me wonder if she likes sex at all in the first place. I would think she is a psycho bitch if she has had sex with way to many people.

[IndiReloaded]

OV, your biases are showing. A woman who hasn't had sex at 40 has almost given up her ability to reproduce, which IS a conscious driving force in women to varying degree.

Such a woman has issues, believe it. That or she has discovered the world's best vibrator & isn't letting anyone else know about it.

[vashti]

I think the overwhelming majority of people who haven't been able to connect with at least one other person on a meaningful level by the time they are 40 are definitely suspect. I would guess they most likely have serious commitment issues (Sorry CAM) or they are religious to excess. Are there exceptions? Probably, but my warning signals would definitely be going off.

If they were male and handsome, I would guess gay.

[SquareWheel]

Well, Gigabitch, twenties would definitely be too young. I've been getting messages from nice, pleasant, grandmotherly women in their fifties, but I'm hoping for someone in her mid thirities to early forties.

I know better than to hope for a movie star, especially in my mid-forties. Just someone cute to average-looking and around medium weight.

And I don't think I'm being too choosy, although I don't want to have to close my eyes and imagine either. After all, I think that first time is supposed to be magic and exhilarating, not a chore.

Maybe I'm making too much of it, but after fantasizing about this for some 30 years now, this is really deeply important to me.

And thanks for the suggestions, IndiReloaded. Those are some of the things I'd suspected myself. I've had a few respondents on AFF accuse me of making my story up, although it's hard to imagine why anyone would make up such a thing.

But Bluesummer actually got it right, I've been socially inept since my early teens. I'm still a bit unsteady on my feet in social situations, but I enjoy getting out and meeting people now.

Anyway, thanks for the input everyone!

[IndiReloaded]

Well, Gigabitch, twenties would definitely be too young. I've been getting messages from nice, pleasant, grandmotherly women in their fifties, but I'm hoping for someone in her mid thirities to early forties.

I know better than to hope for a movie star, especially in my mid-forties. Just someone cute to average-looking and around medium weight.

And I don't think I'm being too choosy, although I don't want to have to close my eyes and imagine either. After all, I think that first time is supposed to be magic and exhilarating, not a chore.

Maybe I'm making too much of it, but after fantasizing about this for some 30 years now, this is really deeply important to me.

And thanks for the suggestions, IndiReloaded. Those are some of the things I'd suspected myself. I've had a few respondents on AFF accuse me of making my story up, although it's hard to imagine why anyone would make up such a thing.

But Bluesummer actually got it right, I've been socially inept since my early teens. I'm still a bit unsteady on my feet in social situations, but I enjoy getting out and meeting people now.

Anyway, thanks for the input everyone!

No prob SW, hope you find what you seek & welcome to the forum. Call me "indi". Feel free to pop in & offer your own advice as you see fit. (e.g. There was a recent thread seeking help on masterbation. You must be an expert by now.)

Cheers,
- Indi

[Only-virgins]

OV, your biases are showing. A woman who hasn't had sex at 40 has almost given up her ability to reproduce, which IS a conscious driving force in women to varying degree.

Such a woman has issues, believe it. That or she has discovered the world's best vibrator & isn't letting anyone else know about it.

Women can have babies at 40. What do you mean driving force?

[SquareWheel]

Actually, you might be surprised about the masturbation thing, Indi. Since getting into my forties, the old libido ain't what it used to be. At this point, I think I'm driven more by the desire to finally experience my lifelong ultimate fantasy than by actual lust.

Ironic, isn't it? My desire to finally find this one life-altering experience has been intensifying even as my libido is fading. What a funny old thing life can be...

[Junket]

Actually, you might be surprised about the masturbation thing, Indi. Since getting into my forties, the old libido ain't what it used to be. At this point, I think I'm driven more by the desire to finally experience my lifelong ultimate fantasy than by actual lust.

Ironic, isn't it? My desire to finally find this one life-altering experience has been intensifying even as my libido is fading. What a funny old thing life can be...

Humans crave intimacy, in most any form.

[IndiReloaded]

Women can have babies at 40. What do you mean driving force?

Lol, OV I have to watch my language w/you. I simply refer to the female desire to reproduce. To have babies.

Yes, women can have a baby at 40, or older even. But it gets harder the older we get. (hurry up Giga, get knockin)

[Off2College]

dude i don't see how being a virgin is a problem. I just don't see why it matters. You are thinking too much into this.

[Tedel]

If they were male and handsome, I would guess gay.

"Soltero maduro, maricón seguro"
(translation: "Old single male, sure he's gay")