would you like me to look into my crystal ball?
baby ya hustle. but me i hustle harder.
He was probably planning on breaking up with that girl anyways. If he's serious about loving you, he'll wait for you to come around but it seems like he's a flirt. Don't let him mess with your emotions like that. I say stay clear of him so that you can move on to better relationships.
I have a feeling you're not going to listen to most posters here who seem to be saying 'don't'.
So, all I would suggest is make sure you understand BEFORE you take him back what your dealbreakers are for a relationship. Because, right now, your values are basically a moving target based on someone else's actions, instead of your own internal beliefs.
As for this:
How on earth can you know this^? Based on what experience? Be very clear with yourself on what you WANT to be true & what actually IS.I really think it is true love and that I will never find someone else I could love as much as I love him.
Good luck.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
You know, the thing about that "spark" you have for someone is that it is ALWAYS mutual. I don't know how the brain does it, but it does. Pheromones I think. So if he doesn't have it, you just think you do and probably don't...or he is avoiding it on purpose.
"Why are you an atheist?"
"because I paid attention in science class."
It's low self esteem Indi. I know people like this. They implant in their heads this ridiculous idea that they will never be able to find something better than target x because of their perceived low value thus their only choice (and purpose in life) is to pursue x in any way possible. They will take as much punishment and humiliation as x is willing to throw at them without any boundaries or internal standards until such point in time where x gets tired of walking all over them and leaves of own accord for something perceived as better leaving their partner completely oblivious as to why this has happened.
It's very unfortunate that it has to be this way with some people. Very sad actually.
Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
~Born to Live - Mavrik~
NO NO NO. He keeps coming back to you because you are weak and you LET him. When he finds something else, he will leave you again. You will most likely keep taking him back, since you've set the precedent, he knows this.......you'll always be his BACK UP.
How does having a great future and a happy life include him sleeping with other people? Do you really think you are going to be okay with this?!? Do you really think you deserve this? Why would you not want to be with someone you know will be loyal to you? It's almost as if you have no self worth.
All BS my dear. You sound like you're trying to convince yourself he is a good guy. He is not. Of course everyone has their redeeming points, but those few good things about him should not be enough to overlook the bad points.
No, why would anyone have a positive experience in this situation? Even YOU aren't having a positive experience. Just because you love someone, it doesn't mean they will change for you. Loving someone doesn't automatically mean they feel the same way in return. And all the love in the world can't make a bad man treat you well.
I'm talking from experience here. There are better men out there. You need to learn something about the definition of love....most importantly how to love YOURSELF first and foremost. No one will ever show you love or respect if you don't love or respect yourself, plain and simple.
Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever. - Mohandas Gandhi
That's not love, Shortie. That's mental illness. If you had any friends or family that gave a damn about you they would forbid you from ever seeing or communicating with that scumbag again because he is a terrible excuse for a man.
Clearly you don't have anyone in your life that gives a damn about you, though, or you wouldn't be so broken-down that you would accept the treatment you've been offered by this asshat. You've obviously been raised to think badly of yourself. I'd like to have a harsh word with your mother.
You've wasted years of your life on this disgusting pig, and you have no idea what you're missing. What you've described is not love at all, but an obsessive infatuation that has gotten in the way of any possibility you had of having a decent boyfriend.
Listen up: there are over three billion men on this planet. That's a lot of potential. Could you at least try to find a guy with some measure of personal integrity before you lay down on the floor in front of Pig Man again?
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Wow, you guys are so much nicer than me.
I see her as a "bad risk but not too late" poster. If she actually takes him back, I promise to amuse you with my indignant censure of her.
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Somehow I don't think she'll be coming back.
The decision has been made. I think she'll opt out to learn the hard way.
Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
~Born to Live - Mavrik~
Yep, idiots tend to stop coming back once they realize how dumb they are. They don't like to be reminded of how inept they are at relationships.
Ironic considering they'd take that kind of abuse from their "one and only's".
Maybe we're just not phrasing it correctly. How about this:
"I gave some advice to this other cutie in another thread. iI sure wish you knew how to take advice like that, but you're just not open enough. Hey, I think I want to have a more open forum, so I can give advice to anybody I feel like, any time. If you really cared, you'd be okay with this."
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