Quote Originally Posted by kasp1346 View Post
I've tried to express my feelings without actually telling her I'm in "Love" with her. I think she feels the same, but she doesn't want to get hurt. She thinks that I am "settling" for her because I have been single for some time now. She also said once that it sounded like I was just trying to get laid. I couldn't disagree more. I was being entirely sincere and her saying that pretty much made me cry. I've thought of her everyday for the past four months...EVERYDAY! More than I've ever thought of anyone I thought I loved in the past, it's almost scary!
Anyways, I'm at a loss as what to do. I value our friendship but I feel she could be a keeper. I could see her as my friend/wife/lover/soul mate. Other women just don't seem to compare to her, regardless of what they might be like. Should I just see what happens? Tell her I "love" her? Pretend we never kissed and both enjoyed it?(She kissed me first, by the way) It's tearing me apart, I want to forget but can't. The holiday season of 2008 is still pretty far away. That's a long time to wait until I can see her again in person. Sorry for the novel, but I could write more, she has that effect on me. Thanks for your input and advice in advance.
You need to tell her. Clearly. No more beating around the bush. You're beyond friendship & attempts to keep it low key are just a facade, IMO.

Based on what you say, I doubt you'll lose your friendship over this. You need to get your true relationship moving forward & see where it takes you. Something like an LDR for a few months is in the making here, during which time you can support her emotionally while she get whatever she needs to together. You need to spend time evaluating your feelings & making sure they are based in something mutual & not that dreaded White Knight Syndrome. Once you're both sure, then you'll need to look at relocating as others here have already said.

Fun times, good luck.